S1E051 Anxiety Clearing Exercise Demo with Tamara

I just want to explain how this is going to go first. As you know, it's called timeline therapy. It's one of the timeline therapy modalities, and we're going to actually elicit your timeline. And for the others here, whether you're on camera or not, feel free to play along. If there's something that you feel anxiety, by all means, just follow along. Because what Melissa is going to do first is actually elicit your timeline and then take you on a little practice float. All right, on your timeline. Okay, just so that you, your unconscious mind, kind of knows what's happening. Conscious just kind of have an idea what's going to happen, and just understand that it's very simple. You don't have to think too much about it. Okay, it's just it's going to be very natural, and then we'll actually do the technique. A lot of these techniques they take a lot longer to explain and set up. The actual technique takes seconds. Doesn't take very long. Okay. Yeah.

All right. So, just to reiterate, for the purpose of the recording here, we're going to be working with anxiety that you have around getting blood tests and then getting the results correct, beautiful, and all you need to do is just follow my instructions. And however your unconscious mind answers my questions is absolutely perfect. There is no right way or wrong way. Just trust the first answer you get from your unconscious mind. All right. And whenever we work with the unconscious mind, we want to get into our body, which means we want to get out of our thinking head. So a quick, easy way to do that is just to take three deep inhales and hard exhales, so you hear the air being expelled from your body. So let's do that together.

And Tamara, just on a scale of one to 10, you know, 10 being the most anxious you've ever been to zero being no anxiety at all around this blood test concept. Where are you right now in terms of your level of anxiety?

When I like decide to go and do it, it's just like more than 10, the highest number ever.

Okay, all right, that's a lot of anxiety.

Oh yeah, yeah. I'll be I'll be home just thinking about it, and even there's nothing, but I just be thinking and yeah.

Okay, okay, okay. All right. So this is going to be a powerful one. Then all right.

And also just for our understanding, because we need an end date. Are you likely to get other blood work, more blood work done in the next six months. So if we said by you know October,

maybe yeah, because I'm having trouble with digesting digesting food, so that's why maybe.

Okay. The other thing we want to just pre-frame here is you know if there's something beyond just acute anxiety, like I know you mentioned that it's you're really you have a phobia around it, like you're scared. You have a lot of fear, and and that's you know it's a common fear of needles. I know I don't like needles either. Normally we wouldn't do this technique for something that's that charged. This is more like usually something smaller. That being said, we'll still give it a go. However, normally we just want you to know that we would be doing like the bigger timeline therapy negative emotions techniques instead, because those really get down into the the depths of the fear of what you euphobia you have around.

That's right.

Yeah. Okay.

All right. So let's take those three deep inhales and exhale forward.

good,

and again,

yes, one more,

nice. So just feel relaxed. Feel free to close your eyes, and as I said, just listen to my instructions. So Tamara, if I were to ask your unconscious mind where your past is and where your future is, I have an idea. You might say it's from right to left, or front to back, or up to down, or in some direction from you in relation to your body. And it's not your conscious concept that I'm interested in. It's your unconscious. So if I were to ask your unconscious mind where your past is, to what direction would you point? Right, up. Show me with your hand which direction you're pointing. Thank you. And your future. Which direction would you point if I were to ask your unconscious mind where your future is? Show me with your hand again.

You raised your hand. Is there one going in one direction and the other going in the other direction?

You know, I'm. I was supposed to raise for that first question the left hand, okay, and then for the second question the right hand.

That's perfect. Thank you. All right. So just close your eyes again, and now would you bring to mind the directions that you just pointed to? Do you notice they imply a line? Just nod your head if you do. Good. And now, when I say line, I don't mean to imply only visual, because in a moment I'm going to ask you to float up above that line, and by float. I also mean as sounds floating on the wind, or floating in the bathtub, or visually. However, you float up above your timeline is perfect. So, can you just float up above your timeline now, and make sure you are looking through your own eyes? And now, remaining above your timeline, just float back into the past. Are you there?

Yeah.

Good. Now float back toward now and stop there. Are you there?

Yeah.

Good. Now facing toward the future, float up higher and farther back into the past, and now float out into your future. Are you there?

Yeah.

Good. Now float up higher. Float up so high that your timeline seems like it is only one inch long. Good. Now float back to now, float down into the room, and open your eyes. Good. How was that, Ben?

Well done.

Well, way to go. Following instructions,

yes, that's the biggest, you know, piece of this is just following instructions and letting your unconscious mind do what it needs to do. So well done, well done. All right, so that was all just the setup again. Like we said, all this stuff is is you know takes a lot longer than the actual technique. So now that you kind of have a feeling of how it's going to float, so now I just want you to bring to mind again, you know, this thing that we're talking about about you getting a blood test and waiting for the results. Okay, so I want you to again just close your eyes, and I want you to imagine how it could go well. Okay, so before we even take you on the float, you actually you can open your eyes. You don't have to close your eyes. So we're just gonna have a conversation. So you've also obviously had blood tests before, yeah, right, and they've gone okay before, right? So, can you bring that image to mind that having blood tests in it going well? Okay, now we-that's what we call the successful completion of this event that you're worried about, okay, that you're anxious about. So, remember that we have a choice: we can either think of the horror show, or we can think of the love story. So the horror show is what you normally go to, right? All the anxious thoughts of everything that can go wrong. This love story is you actually going, having it done, everything being okay, the results of being okay. Okay, this is what I'm going to get you to focus on once we go up into your timeline. Okay, you have that picture clear. Yeah. Okay. Beautiful. All right. So close your eyes. Take a big deep breath. Exhale hard. We get back into our bodies. Good. Now I want you to float up above your timeline again. Good. I want you now to flow out into the future, 15 minutes past the successful completion of the event about which you thought you were anxious. Tell me when you're there. And there, good. Now turn and look toward now on the timeline. Now, where's the

anxiety? Is it gone? Yeah. Okay, stay with me. Keep your eyes up because we're still out on our timeline. Keep your close. You keep your eyes closed. Stay with me. All right. So you're on your timeline, looking toward now. You're thinking of the successful completion, and where is the anxiety on a scale of one of zero to 10 now? Three, maybe three. Okay, so let's pump up that image of the successful completion. Let's make it brighter. Let's make it you're feeling really, really happy. You're feeling joyful. You're feeling relieved. Whatever you're hearing from the the person that's giving it to you, they're laughing. They're joking with you. So really pump that visual up. You got it.

Yeah.

Good. Okay. Now again, looking towards now on your timeline. Now where's the anxiety on the scale of zero to 10?

Zero

beautiful. All right. Float back to now. Float all the way back to now, and come down back into the room and open your eyes. Congratulations, Tamara. You see how simple that is.

Yeah.

As all we do is just literally. This is why we call it clear the screen. We're just clearing the screen from the horror show. We're saying no. I'm going to focus on the love story because I have a choice, right? Neither of those things have happened, and at least the anxiety disappeared. Yeah, right. So at least now you can use this as many times as you need. So say like next week comes in, the doctor calls and says, "Hey, tomorrow I need you to go get a blood test. Now if you start feeling the anxiety again, you can just stop and do exactly. We just did with you, and just say, "Yep, okay, I'm going to think about it going well, and it disappears. Yeah, but you can't. We always have this funny joke that you can't overdose on this. Like you can use this as many times as you need to, and as you do, the more you use this technique, the more you are training your mind to automatically go to the love story.

Okay,

right? Because right now we're just so trained to be. I'm just going to think of all the things that go wrong. However, now if we can constantly keep firing those neural pathways, that no, I'm just going to fire this way. I'm going to fire this that beautiful picture that I just brought up in my mind. That's where it will automatically go, and in time, that's what we mean about the change. The change will stick because now that neural pathway has now become something that's positive as opposed to something that's negative. Yeah, that's right. Exactly how we deal with phobias, right? Our phobia won't. Like I used to be scared of spiders, so I thought of a spider. My brain went this way. Oh my gosh, I'm going to die. So I rewired it, and now I still don't like spiders. Don't get me wrong. However, now my brain just says, "Okay, there's a spider there. I don't like it. Luckily, my daughter is a spider hunter, so I just call her and be like, 'Can you deal with this spider, honey? Or now I can actually-I've actually picked up a spider in my hand since then. So it actually really does work. Yeah, and this is just our mind playing tricks on us, right?

So all we're doing is rewiring. So congratulations, Tamara.

Thanks so much.

for playing around.

I will keep doing that.

Yeah, yeah, and we have a whole workshop on this called "Clear the Screen, where we actually teach you how to do this technique, and so that we dive deep into how brain wires and how this all works. So, yeah, we'll we'll share all that information with you. Okay,

great. Yeah,

congratulations, and again, you make it easy for us because when you follow instructions, it works. So thank you for following instructions.

Yeah, that's what I do. Thank you so much.

And the other the other piece there that Billy alluded to that I really wanted to reiterate is in this work, we're not saying you're never going to feel your emotions again. Because remember, the emotions are messengers. So we want you to be feeling your emotions, just giving you the tools for when those emotions come up, how you can then release the emotion once you recognize. Oh, rewind the tape. What was I focusing on? And go out across your timeline, 15 minutes past the successful completion, and imagine it going well because it's a successful completion, and that releases the anxiety from the body. Because the unconscious mind goes, "Oh, now she's focusing on the right thing. I can let it go. And not only that, the unconscious mind can say, "Oh, now I know where she's going. I know she's safe. Because remember, its number one job is to keep you safe. I know she's safe over there. I can release the anxiety from your body. So use as needed. The anxiety will come up, and that's okay. Yeah, beautiful. Thank you so much, Tamara.

Thank you.