S1E035 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Trust with Katie Louise

[00:00:01] Clear the Screen, shift the scene, you're the rider of this dream, let go of fear, let go of doubt, and start playing the version that pulls you out Clear the Screen, clear the noise, choose again, you've got the choice, the story changes when you see, anxiety came to set you free Welcome back to another Clear The Screen podcast episode. I am Melissa Deally

[00:00:29] And I am Billie Aadmi and this is where anxiety ends and abundance begins. We're so excited for our guest today, Miss Katie Louise I love your energy and she's one of our sisters on the other side of the globe and that's what I love about this work is that we know our soul family is coming together and we're so excited to hear about your story today, Katie Thank you

[00:00:54] Just to introduce you to the audience, Katie Louise is a mindset mentor who helps women stop abandoning themselves and start leading their lives from a place of self-trust Drawing on her own journey and expertise in NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, timeline therapy and hypnosis She guides women to break patterns, reclaim their identity and create a life that actually feels like theirs

[00:01:20] And Katie, so often in this work, people that have come through it have come through it because they've found these tools As a result of them searching for answers in their own lives So I would love to just have you take us back in time a little bit to where were you before you found these tools? What was life like for Katie Louise back then? Well, thank you for having me firstly And secondly, to answer your question

[00:01:49] If I go back in time I need to go back Probably around a good 12 years ago for me So I was a Mother of young children I had everything that We're supposed to have in life I had the career I was working in corporate I had, you know, healthy, beautiful children

[00:02:17] I had the husband, the family, the house, the white picket fence, so to speak And from the external I felt like I should be happy I'm ticking all the boxes What is going on that is leaving me feeling so disconnected from myself? I wanted more out of my life And I guess I had not really ever been around people That modeled

[00:02:46] How to even know what war is Right? So we focus so much on What we don't like about what's going on in our lives at that time So I knew all the things I didn't want And I was feeling I guess Quite unworthy Of all the things that I had And there was just this massive disconnection So for me I started seeking

[00:03:14] I started seeking personal development I started reading books I started attending some workshops And I felt that Every single time I attended something I picked up New little philosophies Or new ways of thinking Yet They always somehow had me Doubting myself more Blaming myself more For not knowing the philosophy sooner

[00:03:43] Or for really not being clear On how I would actually integrate that into my life So it continued to spur This level of hopelessness Or almost like There's something wrong with me Oh so someone's written a book about this Is this common knowledge? What's wrong with me that I didn't know this Or that I can't show up in this way? And I guess

[00:04:10] It led me to be a client of a gentleman Who had studied these tools And going through a 12-week program with him It was the first time I think in my life That I had felt some self-worth And some excitement about my future And actually was given permission To have a clear outcome and direction Right? So that's the kind of quick story

[00:04:39] On how I was first exposed to Even understanding there is another way And there's a way of really Really obtaining The control of the steering wheel In our own life I love that It's that whole saying You don't know what you don't know Right? And I know I was Same as you Katie Like your story resonates with me So much Like Checked the The kid box Checked the husband box Checked the house box

[00:05:08] Checked the job box And I'm like I did all the things How come I still feel so dead inside? And again Like you Something inside me My soul was not being fulfilled Other areas were being fulfilled Except my soul wasn't And again As soon as we listen And you know We listen to that little voice That there's something more to life And that you know You follow the breadcrumbs And that's always the pattern That we see Is you just If you listen And you follow the breadcrumbs The universe will guide you

[00:05:38] Where you need to go And I don't know about you But I mean I say this to Melissa all the time Like the more we learn About this stuff And the way our mind works The more I realize I don't know anything I think I got a handle on life And then I'm like Nope That's not it at all And then you think You learn some more And you're like Oh I got it And like Nope It's like there's And I think that's just Part of the system Is this constantly Needing to grow And learn And evolve Because just like we say With plants You're either growing Or you're decaying Right And so we want to keep growing So you know I love

[00:06:08] I love that You're at now And I know You know We're in the Master Trainer Program Together And you know Where are you now Like what What are you most excited about I know like You know We're always Kind of redefining Who we are And I know You've gone through Some different Life changes As I did And like What excites you now About like Where your path is going I guess the main thing That excites me now Is Just the possibilities

[00:06:36] So with what I have Learned And continue to learn It has enabled me To Become more resourceful And trust myself On such a level That Even when my External world Don't want to swear But throws shit At me I trust myself That I will get through it And I guess The younger versions Of me Didn't have that

[00:07:05] She did not Trust herself She was looking For external People Places Things To come in Like the Knight on the White horse And save me And now I trust myself To do that Or I trust myself To Walk The walk Anyway And move Through whatever Is thrown At me And know That I will Get to the Other side I love that I love that Katie Because

[00:07:34] Part of This learning That I believe You've Encountered As you came Through all Of this life Experience And then All of these Trainings Is a deep Understanding That Everything Is happening For you Always To learn Something And therefore Even when The world Shows That throws Shit At you And you're In the Ick Of all Of it That there's Still the Awareness For your Mind to go To okay Why is this Happening

[00:08:04] You know How is this Happening For me So that It just Takes some Of the Stress Off of It And that You can Trust Yourself And know That there Is a reason Here I'm supposed To learn Something And as Soon as I learn It That moves Me through It Yes Exactly It's not So much For me A How is This Working For me I guess I guess Underneath It is

[00:08:34] But where I'm at In my Journey Right now It's more About how Can I See this From a Different Lens That opens Up the Avenues of Seeing the Possibilities So the Younger Version of Me would Do the Why is This Happening To me What's Wrong With me And now It is What can I learn From this And what Other Possibilities Are there

[00:09:03] That allow Me to move Towards what I want Instead of Getting stuck In the Loop of Why me What's Wrong With You know Me And why I'm Like Demiland Right Like Yeah Yeah All that Stuff like The blame And the Reasons And the Excuses Whereas now You're in Solution City As we Call it And now You know You can As Melissa Likes You know Put on Your power Suit And don Your cape And just You know Figure out What's Happening And how To keep Moving Through it

[00:09:33] Because We know That that's The only Option And you know Something that We're big Proponents of Is that If it's Hard If life Is hard You're just Doing it Wrong Right That's why I have My little Easy button On my Desk Right If it's Hard That's the Universe Communicating With you To say Like hey Maybe we Should be Moving in This direction Because maybe That's not The direction For you And I know You know You've been Really exploring You know As you Graduate With all The certifications And where You want

[00:10:02] To you know Work in The world What would You tell Like your Younger Self Like what's The biggest Piece of It I know Like we Always tend To attract To the People that We used To be Right And I Know you Keep talking About like Younger Katie Like if There's Someone out There listening That's like Oh my Gosh I used To be Katie Or I Am Katie Right Now Like who She was Before I want To get To where She is Now What's The piece Of advice That you Would give

[00:10:32] Them to Help them Get kind Of out of Victim Island Into the Solution City Great Question So I Believe That we All have Our own Internal Compass And that The greatest Thing that we Can do is Learn to Listen to That so You talk About the Easy Button We talk About resistance When life Feels Hard I think

[00:11:02] For younger Version of Me and Anyone else Who's Listening Who feels That they're Shrinking Themselves That life Is hopeless That they're Really lost It's actually To lean Into that And recognize That that is Their alarm System And that They are Worthy Of whatever Their heart Desires They do Not have To stay In those Feelings Life is Not hard It's not Meant to Be hard They just Need to Learn to Actually listen

[00:11:31] To their Compass That will Tell them When people Places Things Are not In alignment And that They can Learn tools That will Give them The power To peel Back the Layers of Themselves And know Themselves On such A level That Ease And that Clarity Becomes Your guiding Light And we Also Know These tools Help A lot Too So What Are your Favorite Go-tos Melissa

[00:12:01] And I We were All about Timeline Therapy We love Timeline Therapy We're Promoting It all The time We're Big proponents Of getting That out Into every Household What is What is Like you Know Because What are Your go-tos And what Would you Recommend If you Know Someone Wanted to Really Kind of Take Control Where Would You Recommend They Focus Look For me I Recognize That I Used to Live From such A place Of fear So

[00:12:31] One Of my All Time Favorite Tools Is Actually The Blowing Out Someone's Submodalities And the Logical Levels Almost Like You Would Do In The Phobia Model Right Because When You Are So Scared Of Anything Happening It Is So Incredible How A quick Submodality Shift Can Entail A Completely Different Sensation In Your Body And Remove That

[00:13:01] Fear And Allow You To Move Forward Because You See Things Differently You Hear Things Differently And You Feel Things Differently So Definitely That's One Of My Favorite Techniques Absolutely Love Timeline Therapy And Also I Think For Me Just A Lot Submodality Work So Really The Swish And Mapping Across Just More Recently I Found Myself Going Back To A Craving

[00:13:31] That I Had When I Was Pregnant No I'm Not Pregnant Again But Just Found Myself I Think Out Of Boredom And So Just Being Able To Do That Submodality Shift To Go Hey This Is Not Really What I Want To Be Doing At 10 O'clock At Night Sitting Down With A Bowl Of Yummy Cereal Watching TV And So Being Able To Use Those Submodality Techniques To You Know Replace That With What I Do Want To Be Doing Instead So Powerful And What I

[00:14:01] Love About Submodalities And Really All Of Our Techniques Is How Powerful They Are And How Quick They Are You Know Literally With Mapping Across That You're Talking About And Replacing What You Do Want To Be Doing With The Habit That You Want To Stop It Literally Can Be Done In Less Than Five Minutes Once We've Done All Of The Setup And That Is How Fast It Is To Start Rewiring Our Neurology In Our Unconscious Mind

[00:14:30] In Order To Create New Habits New Results And What We Want In Life And Weeks Of Hard Work Etc Etc Etc Etc And Again That Word Hard Comes In Because That's The Programming That It

[00:15:04] Has Out Why We Have This Podcast And Why We Love Having You Know Other Practitioners Trainers On To Share This Message With The World So If Any Of The Audience Is Listening And You're Attempting To Change Some Habit In Your Life Some Aspect Of Your Life That Isn't Serving You

[00:15:43] Anchoring Is Such A We We're Constantly Being Anchored Anyways And So We Create A Resource Anchor When We Get Into Those Stinky Moods And It's Funny I

[00:16:13] It's Not Like Rocket Science Right Even Though We're Working With Neurology And The Mind And The Brain And Everything It's Not Like Brain Surgery It's Such A Simple Idea That Imagine If You Could Shift Your State Just In A Matter Of Mom To Then You Know Like I Know Your Mom Too Just To Get Yourself Back In Like You Know If You You We're Businesses Too And Sometimes You Just Get In Stinky Move When You're In Business Because We're Doing The Things And Then You Take It On Your Poor Little Ones Because They're The Ones Running Around And I Mean

[00:16:43] It's So Empowering Right I Love Like It's Like We Call This Empowerment Work Right We Call It Life Skills That It's Not Just You Know If You Want To Run A Business Like It Helps It's Like Every Area Of Your Life What Are Are In Your Life Katie Has It

[00:17:21] When We Actually Go Through These Trainings Because There's A Difference From Being A Client To Being The Student Right And When We Learn It For Ourselves And We Then Go Deep Enough To Learn The Structure Like You Were Saying With Tony Robbins It's Like You Can Anchor To The Heart You Can Do So Many Different Things When You Understand The Why Behind And How And The Structure Of These Tools So To Map That Across Now Into Other Areas Of My

[00:17:51] Life Absolutely In Parenting It Has Assisted Me To Connect To My Children In A Way I Could Only Really Ever Have Dreamed Of I Can See Things Now From Their Model Of The World And Adjust How I Communicate To Them In A Way That Allows Them To See Me As A Safe Person And Open Up And When I Was A Kid I Never Opened Up To My Parents Right So To Be Able To

[00:18:21] Provide That To My Children Who Are Boys That Naturally Wouldn't Really Tell Mom The Deepest Darkest Secret That Through Our Language Sections Learning these Tools And The Linguistics Of Seeing Someone Else's Perspective Absolutely My Parenting Has Changed My What Are The Are I Guess Obviously There Has Been A Career Shift Because I Am So

[00:18:51] I Just Have Like A Fire Under My In Order To Help Other People Predominantly Women I Call It Kind Of Reparenting Not In The Way That's Thrown Around But In Basically Taking Yourself Back And Learning How To Undo Or Clear The Screen As You Ladies Say All The Things That We Have Just Absorbed And Taken As Parts Of Us That Do Not Help Us

[00:19:21] So Career Absolutely Parenting Absolutely Spiritually I Just Again It Has Allowed This Awareness That I'm Just A Blip In The Universe Right So There Is So Much More Out There There Is Always More To Learn There Is Always More To Experience And

[00:19:53] I I Think That's Probably I Could Talk For Hours On All The Different Ways This Has Changed My Life But If I Look At The Different Areas Of Life They Probably Be

[00:20:23] Just Through Understanding The Mind Body Connection And Doing The Work To Clear What Was Being Held At That Body Level So I Love That Yeah Most People I Was Having This Conversation Yesterday With Someone That You Know Most People That Are Working With The Body Here But We Don't Realize It's Only Showing Up Here Because You're Not Dealing With It Up There Right We Deal With The Higher Bodies The Three Higher Bodies The Mental Emotional Spiritual Bodies And Guess What All Of A Sudden It Disappears In Your Physical Body Because Now You Started

[00:20:53] Paying Attention That's All The Body Was Wanting To Do Can You Pay Attention Because There's Things I'm You're Not Getting It So We Know The The Unconscious Mind Will Get What It Needs And I Know I'm Just A Blip In The Universe Which Yes If You're Looking At You Know The Scope Of What's Available To Us That Most People Are

[00:21:23] Not Even Aware Of Yes We're Just A Blip However I Want To Give The Flip Side Of That That You Are Your Very Own Unique Self With Gifts That No One Else Has Come Into This Planet With That Allows You To To Fulfill Your Mission Which Is Makes You So Much More Than Just A Blip And The Passion With Which You Speak Of This Work Is Clearly Showing That You Are On Your

[00:21:52] Mission Now As You Have The Fire Under Your Butt And You're Excited To Share This With Others As Are Billy And I We Just Want The World To Know Because This Isn't Taught At School And You Know We're Taught The Conscious Mind The Tiny Little 10% Of Our Mind And Then For Many People Life Is Hard And That Becomes The Programming And When They Hear That It Can Be Easy Some People Might Be Like Well That's Too Good To Be True It Can't Be That Easy And Again That's Simply Programming So Letting

[00:22:22] The More We Can Educate People The More We Can Get This Out There And Then People Have More Choices In Their Healing Journey And In Having The Power To Step Into Who They Were Always Meant To Be To Fulfill Their Mission And That's Why We Want To Get It Out There So In Terms Of Fulfilling Mission And Serving Others If People Are Listening To This Podcast And They're Going Yeah That Was Me I Want To Know More About What Katie Louise Has Done And Potentially Work With Her How

[00:22:52] Would People Reach Out To You And Be To Connect With You In Order To Work With You So I Do Have A Website So It's Katie at Katie Louise dot Com Dot A U And Katie At Katie Louise Dot Com Dot U Is Also My Email So There's A Link On My Website And Then Just Through Social They Can Follow Along If They Like And Message

[00:23:22] Me Through There As Well I Do Share A Little Bit About Programs I'm Launching Or Coaching Opportunities Specific To You Know That Kind Of Reparenting And Allowing Ourselves To Really Become The Authority In Our Own Lives And Determine What Serves Us And What Doesn't And Let Go Of The Things That No Longer Serve Us Through Using All Of These Tools That We Have So That Would Be The Way That's Awesome Thank You And We Will

[00:23:52] Have All Of That In The Show Notes For Listeners And As We Wrap This Episode Thank You So Much For Being Here And Sharing Your Journey Your Wisdom Is There Any Last Words Of Wisdom That You Would Like To Share With The Audience Today Absolutely I Really Do Believe That When We're Able To Peel Back The Layers That Society Has Programmed Into Us That Our Generational

[00:24:22] You Know Passed Down Conditioning Has Been Integrated Into Us And Absorbed When We're Able To Peel Back Those Layers And Feel That Choice Everything Is A Choice It Just Opens Up Such A Level Of Personal Power That Is Unmatched By Anything Else I Have Experienced In My 43 Years So I Really Would Encourage Anyone Who's Feeling Lost Anyone

[00:24:52] Who's Feeling A

[00:25:28] literally for anyone. I think that's what we love about these trainings that we do is that anybody can do it, right? I mean, I was a police officer for 20 years and Melissa was in corporate. You guys were in corporate. It doesn't mean you have to have gone to school and get degrees in psychology and all this. And yet, I think it's some of the most powerful tools on the planet, in my opinion. So thank you, Katie, for being here. So awesome seeing you and we wish you all

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