The Courage to Change Starts With Choosing Yourself with Tiffany Peterson

Welcome to the Limitless Women podcast. Our mission is to

help women business owners like you grow profitable businesses

and actualize your opportunities to serve and give to yourself

and others. Here's your host, the founder of Limitless Women,

Laura Gisborne.

All right, my friends, welcome back to this

very special episode of the Limitless Women podcast. It is

my privilege and my honor to share with you, a woman that I

respect and admire and have known for a long time, and

somehow I reeled her in today. So get ready for a great ride

and help me welcome Tiffany Peterson to our community,

sweetheart. It's so good to see you. I love

spending time with my fellow ginger sister.

Yes, yes, and

the vibrancy that you are, and what you're

creating. So, thank you for having me.

Thank you, thank you so much. And I'll just, you

know, tell a little story of how we got to be here today. Was

that I reached out? I've been following Tiffany. We've been

friends for a long time. We were trying to figure out it was

Brendan Burchard, or did we meet in those days when he was just

getting started? We meet through e women or through all of the

above, and brought us together. But we would get to see each

other years ago, and then we didn't get to see each other for

a long time. And I just decided that I should reach out to you

and ask if you'd come and speak at my event, not realizing, of

course, that obviously I know you have a lot of other things

going on. And you were like, "Yes, and this is my speaker

fee, and this is what I do. And I said, I so appreciate that.

And this is a fundraiser, and I'm wondering if you would be

available. And you said, give me a little bit more time next

time. And in the meantime, let's catch up. So we got on a call,

and I just was so thrilled to reconnect with you. It's been a

long time, and it's such a pleasure. And I feel like you

have so much wisdom that you've imbued on me. I can't wait to

have more women get to know you.

Well, thank you again. I think that you know

when people are doing great things in the world, and you're

doing so much good, and it's like there's just a magnetism to

that. So when you'd reached out, and then we had the opportunity

to talk and catch up, and it was like, oh my gosh, woman! It just

I left that conversation feeling so edified.

Yay! Good as you as you should, and acknowledged

for all the good work you do in the world and how many lives you

change just by who you be all the time. Which is is really

think Tiffany when I think back to when I met you and I was in

so many ways in my infancy with my leadership of my voice and

being a speaker, and you already had all this experience and

wisdom, and you know we've got your bio here. We know where you

came from, but I would love for you to share a little bit of

your journey from where you got into personal development and

and what what that took you on, right? Because there's a whole

lot of things that happened along the way that have you know

culminated in the magnificence of who you are today. So, how

did you get into this work where you're sharing your own voice

and your own message?

Well, the very short answer is God.

Yeah,

like, like there it is. But I think all of

us can relate to that life looks different than the way we

planned.

Yeah.

So think about that, every one of you.

Thinking, does life look exactly the way that I thought it would

be, or the way it would go, and what I would be doing? And no,

and that's part of what makes life so rich and beautiful, and

the experience of the adventure of life and living, and the

twists and the turns and the plot twists because what I'm

doing today, I didn't grow up thinking about doing what I'm

doing today. It was not this like I know I want to be this

businesswoman and I want to speak in front of groups and I

want to do these kinds of things. Absolutely not. My

intention was I'm going to be a school teacher and then get

married and be a stay at home mom and sew Halloween costumes

and raise babies and you know do life in that way and my life

just looks very different than what I thought it was going to.

And there's beauty in that. There's been pain in that, just

like anyone else listening. But I think choosing into the path

of being a seeker and a student, and I truly like I say that, but

I really did mean like I'm on this path because of God, and in

my faith path, and then my relationship with Spirit, you

know the way that that's been cultivated. And just to be

clear, I respect how everyone presences to their higher power

and what names they may give that, the ways they connect to

it. I no longer believe in the thought process that everyone

should do it my way, and there's only one way. It's like no,

that's quite limiting. But my own experience was, you know, I

I thought I was going to be a special needs teacher. I worked

in three classrooms as an aide to the teacher I was going to

university. They were all elementary ed classrooms, and

specifically, again, special needs. Always had a soft spot

for that, and while I loved that time, I happened to go on a

double date in college. Coincidence or not, the woman,

the woman and the other couple, her dad had a training

development company, and I was fascinated and curious. Like

much of the night at dinner, I was asking her, "Well, what does

this mean, and what does that look like, and how do you work

with people and companies and skills and tools and things like

that? And within a few months, I was working for that firm, and

then from that firm, I became aware of Franklin Covey. And

some of you know that name, some of you don't, but Stephen Covey,

he's since passed, bless his soul. He wrote a very well-known

book called the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, and I I

was fascinated by this work. It was so principle based, and it

felt like so edifying and so much light. Well, I went to work

for Franklin Covey, and I became a top salesperson. I was selling

coaching programs, y'all. Back in the day before coaching was a

big thing, and we were still explaining to people what a

coach was.

Now,

right, because now coaching is everywhere.

Yeah, I mean,

we're talking. This is probably like 2000 458,

more 20 years ago. More

than 20 years ago, us were having this. Yeah,

so people didn't even. It wasn't hip to be a coach. There was

like, what's a coach?

Well, you, yeah. What is a coach? And like

a tennis coach, a soccer coach, like what are we talking about?

Yeah,

and I was selling coaching programs over

the phone, Lara, for a few $1,000 and I would close lots

and lots of sales and became a top salesperson. We didn't have

eye contact. We didn't even have Zoom.

Right, right. We weren't meeting

in person. I had to train my ear how to read

energy, and so my sales skills of I didn't have body language,

I didn't have like eye contact, I couldn't read the physicality,

right?

Just simply tonality, and the energy, and I

learned how to become a very successful salesperson, and I

was successful because I so believed in what I was

representing, and whatever you're going to sell, that's

such a key piece. It's that it's not just about making a sale;

it's about making an impact. It's about making a difference.

And when people feel that and experience that, and I really

just cared a lot about helping these people get out of their

ruts, get out of their old habits, to get a coach, to get

support for a period of time, to help them crest the change

process, because change is not always easy, as we all know.

Exactly,

it's challenging. It can be very

hard, and to leave old habits that are quite familiar, even

when we're aware, right? Like how often we're already aware,

like certain habits are not in our best interest, but they can

be hard to change because they're a habit. So that's going

way back in the archives. But I mastered the art of selling,

selling by my ear over the phone, and I became a top 10.

Which I was their first female in that company to have this

accolade. I was their out of like 120 salespeople, the first

female to be a top 10 salesperson, like an annual

presidents club, an annual once a year recognition, and it

changed my life. I was in my mid 20s making six figures as a

young girl in Utah. Okay, everyone, like let's be clear,

like

what you thought you'd be doing. Yeah, I

was not a. I was not like I'm a boss, babe.

I'm gonna be a business girl. I'm gonna be a hustler. I'm

gonna close sales. It was like no, I was gonna be a school

teacher and then bake bread and raise babies. And here I was,

like just having this breakout experience of changing my

thoughts, developing confidence, learning how to sell, letting go

of all my old beliefs that sales was icky and gross, and what did

that mean? Not realizing, like sales is the essential skill to

be able to connect, communicate, help people move forward, help

them change their lives. Whether you're product based, service

based, whatnot. So all that to say, I did so well selling that

they asked me to start training other people, and now we're

tapping into my true gifts, which is teaching, training, and

I was in. I would have these spiritual experiences in these

corporate environments, where I was a corporate sales trainer.

And then, as life had it, the universe said, "Yeah, we've done

enough of that. Let's get out of the nest. We're going to fire

your boss and dissolve his team, and we're going to give you a

severance package. Oh, joy! Good luck!

Yeah,

and it was the best gift. And I went out on my

own, started my own little business, like knees knocking,

voice trembling. What am I doing? Who? How do I go? I knew

how to sell. Like running a business and marketing, and like

my all of my network was in corporate, and I'm very

entrepreneurial based in my market now, as you know, which

is how we've crossed paths and things like that. But that's

taking it back. Of how did I get on this path? Ultimately, it was

God very much. It still is, but I always had this teacher

desire. I just thought I was going to be in a traditional

classroom, and the. That it's morphed and changed is the

heartbeat's the same. The classroom has shifted form.

Yeah, yeah. So fast, you know. God has a bigger

plan for you.

Yes, yes, that's so

exciting. So so good. So one of the things that

you said you'd like to talk about today, and we were like,

you know, I'm I'm sitting here looking at my other computer, a

picture of Zanzibar. Just FYI, the reason I'm bringing that is

just like it reminds me that we just live in the deep end of the

ocean in our world, right? It was like we talk about the

surface things and what's up right now is how do you today

experience the courage to change, right? Like it's one

thing I think in my own experience, I think back of

being my 20s and be like, okay, I'm just going to make this

decision. I'm going to go for it, and you know, I think at

that point 40 years ago, I had a different perspective of how

much time I had to pick myself back up again, right? And now

it's not even a fear of being moving into my 60s of of I won't

have the time to pick up, but it's it's an awareness of the

preciousness of time, right? Of how much, how much each day is a

gift, and I'm curious about what what does this season of life

look like for you as you're talking to me about you know

this next version of your own journey and your own brand and

your own awareness of how God's called you to serve. What's

what's on your heart about that?

I love this-the courage to change. And

any one of you listening, I just invite you to think about. As

Laura's asking me, what's on your heart? I'm asking each of

you listening the same thing: is what's on your hearts, loves?

Like, what are you feeling called to do? What do you want

to see changed in your life, and whether it's a to you feels big

and massive or small and simple or somewhere in between, but

it's thinking about what do you want and where are you feeling

called to, and what you feel, you know, this draw. Like

there's this energy. I love Florence Shinn as an author. I

love she was popular in the late 1930s. She has a really

well-known book called *The Game of Life and How to Play It* and

she talks about following the hunch. We have hunches, nudges,

promptings, impressions, spirit, intuition.

We

give it lots of titles, but you all have this

gift. And if you just catch your breath for a moment while you're

listening to this show, and I'm so proud of you for turning into

Laura's show, and whether again you're on a walk right now, or

you're listening to this, or driving, but it's like just

tuning in your own antenna. It's like, what do I want more of?

What am I drawn to? And some of you have instant knowing because

you've known it for a while. Some of you need to take a

moment to pause and reflect because life's just been moving

so fast. But the courage to change, because most times in

the work that we both do in coaching, people hire me for

change. They say, "I want to grow my sales. I want to grow my

business. I want to be more confident. I want to be happier

and more at peace. Great, beautiful. We all often want

change, but to change, the process of change is usually not

very comfortable. It requires death, loss, release of the

familiar, of the old, and many times in life, I found that the

harder changes to make is when we're leaving something good for

potentially something great, or even not even good to great,

right? It's more about more aligned and who are you now and

in this season, and it does take courage to change. And so, my

own personal self right now, behind the scenes, is we're

working on a a lovely, beautiful, scary at times

rebrand that includes changing my name, and I've built an

entire business. I have two TEDx talks, 1000s of hours, yeah,

between stages, podcasts, training, teachings, you name

it, and I'm changing my name. And there feels like, ooh, I'm

excited about this. So when you find this show, whatever time,

you likely will still be able to find me under Tiffany Peterson,

but it also might be under. But you also might need to find me

under the name Tiffany Love, which is the name that we're

moving to. Which was a spiritual experience I had many years ago,

and finally I'm acting on it. We're talking about seven years

I've been wandering in the desert about this. There's a

lesson in that. The Lord gave me a very clear revelation seven

years ago. I was exploring adopting a child. I never had

children of my own. Always wanted them. Didn't have them. I

did not end up adopting a child because that was not a full yes.

But in the process of exploring that, I had this very clear

revelation about if I was going to adopt a child, I didn't want

to raise it in the name Peterson because that's my formerly

married name.

Interesting. Okay,

and I asked.

Yes.

So, long story short, is that I was given this

very clear revelation about the name Love. It's who I am. It's

who you are. It's who we. All are God is love, and it just has

had such a resonance. But I haven't had the courage to

change it because I'm real comfortable. Tiffany Peterson's

an established name brand, lots of hours, lots of success. But

you know, like sometimes, Lara, when you're dragging around

something old that doesn't fit anymore, it's like when you're

wearing those pants that are a little too tight, you know, or

the energy. For me, it's been more of an energy where it's

like, yeah, this is not in alignment anymore.

Yeah,

and the courage to change. And when we

caught up, you know, two months ago, I was so impressed. We

talked about all the different places you've moved and lived,

and what they all had a lesson for you, and that took courage

to leave in a known environment. Takes courage to leave a job or

complete a relationship. It takes courage to like, hey, I'm

going to lean in to do this new thing. It does take courage to

change. It really does. But I also want to balance that out.

Love is because sometimes we think, oh, there's so much

energy to change something, and some of us it's like, oh, I need

to really commit to my health and wellness and fitness path,

or to launch this business. I'm ready to leave my corporate job.

I'm ready to get me out of here. But it also we're like, oh, the

courage to change. We often think there's a lot of energy

for that. That's true, but there's also a lot of energy

you're doing right now just to maintain and to dole out. You

know when you know something's time, its time has come.

We feel it,

but we quiet it, we numb it. We oh well, I'm

going to wait till it's perfect timing. I'm going to wait till

I'm perfectly confident. I'm going to wait until I have no

fear ever, and then I'll go do the thing, and that's just

faulty. Is I love this reminder that ready is not a feeling,

ready is a decision. And I isn't that good? It's not mine. I

found it somewhere on the internet. I don't know whose it

is, but ready is not a feeling; it's a decision.

Excellent.

And so sometimes, and while I'm not

saying just take massive leaps and you know like quit your job

today, although unless it's the right time, just do it, go for

it. But I am saying that we have again, all of you have an inner

home that houses your spirit or your intuition, your knowing.

Again, call them a hunch, call them a prompting, an impression.

We have knowing, especially women, we are gifted with this.

Your little creation machines, men have the same gift in just

different ways. But it's like you have the access to the

creator. You're a creator yourself. But I'm just

normalizing. It does take courage to change. But let me

also balance out. It also takes energy. So the energy you're

thinking about, oh, all that energy to change, you're also

doing a certain amount of energy just to maintain status quo, and

that's heavy energy, my friends. Maintaining status quo heavy.

Show me what you're showing me.

This says embrace change. Much love,

Laura. This is a leaf from our vineyard when we used to have

our vineyard in Arizona.

Oh yes!

And one of my dear, dear partners and friends,

Andrea Byrd, who worked with us for 10 years, she and I pulled

these leaves and we decoupage them, and I keep this here. And

what I what I didn't see until today is the wisdom of Tiffany

Love, is that this leaf is not struggling. This leaf is passing

through a season, right? There's a gentleness in choosing to fall

and then be reborn, and all the goodness of the seasons. And and

I, until we had a vineyard, I didn't realize that they went

through, you know, all the color change. It's gorgeous. It's so

gorgeous. All the purples and the reds. What I want to

acknowledge and put a pin in for myself to remember here today is

that it takes a lot of energy to stay in the thing that is no

longer congruent as well. And if you allow yourself, I mean, you

and I talked before about my prayer to lead a led life,

right? I pray to be shown, and I've learned to pray to be

obedient to the invitation, which is not was not natural for

me. I'd like to be like, okay, show me, and I'm going to do it,

and I'd like to take full responsibility for all the good

things and no responsibility for the bad things. You know, as a

younger person, I was was pretty foolish and arrogant often, and

as a more mature person, I'm hoping in this season of life to

have a little more grace and gratitude, right for for this of

the unfolding of things, right, and letting that happen. But it

it requires us to step up. You know, literally just wrote this

in something that I did for for a post for a class that we're

teaching. It's just, you know, I believe that God gives us this

opportunity, and then it's up to us to decide to either say yes

and receive, or take the step to meet it. And it's always when we

don't know what's going to happen or how it's going to

happen, and that's what faith is. We call that walking in

faith, right? So I think about the courage, right? The courage

that. Yeah, thank

you for reminding me of that. When we

spoke two months or so ago, I had written that down, and it

was so on my heart. And just that prayer of living a led

life, and thank you for modeling that for us. And again, if if

for me that is partly well, how do we muster our courage? How do

we change? You know, part of for me is anchoring into my roots,

which is faith and belief and relationship with spirit, and

also knowing that change can happen one day at a time. You

know, one hour at a time. Sometimes it feels so big and

overwhelming. It's like when you decide to move and you're like,

"We've got to pack up this whole house. And it's like, "Yeah,

let's start with the bathroom. No, let's start with the laundry

room. Start with this versus like you know, taking those

smaller steps of just living in the day that you're in, but

choosing to honor. I have come to learn, and still learning,

how we learn to honor ourselves is such an important part of the

journey. We honor what our hearts are asking for, because

again, there there is an energy that's heavy that requires us to

maintain where we're at and maintain the status quo versus

trusting that, knowing that intuition. So thanks for letting

us start there because when I think about you know as you

asked me before we click record, what's so on your heart, and I'm

like I want to talk about the courage to change because I'm

living it right now. It's really real for me in this moment, and

while there's lots of topics between the two of us, I mean,

we could be here for seven hours.

Exactly,

it's like that's what's on the heart. And

again, like I'm asking you to all do, which is trust your

heart, trust your knowing. That's on my heart, and trusting

what's on my heart.

Can I just tell you that one of the things that

I've been so excited about having this conversation with

you is how you be in the world. Tiffany is so generous. I

interviewed somebody earlier today for the show, and this

person shall remain nameless. But I immediately said to my

team, "Don't publish that. It needs a lot of help. And we

knew, and this is again not to diss this person, but the

conversation was all about her. And what I love about you, which

is what I wanted to point out, is that I knew that how you be

in the world, because we've known each other for more than a

decade now. How you be,

I know a woman is is

how you be in the world, right? So I knew

having this conversation. I didn't know exactly how you do

it, but I just watched you do it, and I've watched other

interviews of yours all over the place. You know the generosity

of spirit that you bring, and how you keep turning your own

learnings into an opportunity to serve. And you know, just gives

me goosebumps thinking about that. Really walking your talk,

and in the the vision that I've had, you know, for the last

decade plus with Limitless Women is a love letter for the women

who saw me when I could not see myself as a young person. And I

think about now that I'm moving into the the elder season, and

I'm and I'm here kind of lifting up the next generation of

leaders. I think about who do I want to surround myself with,

and it's people like yourself who have the congruence, who

have the integrity. You know, it's it's quiet often, which is

really you know that still water runs deep idea. And I think

about something that you said about business. And when I was

listening to another one of your interviews, someone was

interviewing you. I love the sales conversation. I'm so I'm

super fan. Like sales with ease. Let's have more conversations

about sale. And there's more to business than that. So when you

said like you got into business and you had this skill set and

you had this knowing about sales, there's a whole lot of

other things that go on with being a business owner and being

a leader. What I heard you say in an interview was just about

the power of your relationships and how you honor people and how

you communicate with people. That's so much more than a sales

process. It's who you be in the world. So you talk a little bit

about the power of relationships in your own life and what that

looks like as a business leader and then as a woman and as a

leader in your own life,

I love this conversation, and I mean, think

about the fact we're having this conversation is a testament to

what you just said-the power of relationships.

So great is

we've had a relationship, you and I, and

even though we hadn't, there'd been years we hadn't interacted,

we pick right back up, and there's a connection there and a

warmth that's there because there is a connection and all of

you. I have a keynote that's titled "Your currency is in your

connections, right? Or you can also flip it. Your connections

are your currency, and so in business, no matter what you

sell, every one of you are in the people business. Whether you

sell furniture and you're an interior designer, right?

Whether you sell health and wellness products, whether

you're a fellow coach like Laura and I, you're an author, you're

selling ideas, you're selling change and transformation. You

know, it's like whatever it may be, we're all in the people

business, and that relationships. My friend Randy

Garin calls it relationship capital. Is that you nourish

your relationships? I call it nourishing your network, but

that you show up with the intention to say, "I am going to

be a giver. I'm going to add value. You're going to be a VC,

right? Not necessarily venture capitalists, although it could

be that for sure too. But a VC was like, 'I'm a value creator,

and you're the kind of person that chooses this. Now, what I

love about this, Lara, is we live in a world that has all

kinds of personality tests and assessments. We have

astrological charts. We have human design. You have Myers

Briggs and disc profiles, and I find all those things very

interesting.

Me too.

And what I'm just sharing with you isn't a

personality type; it's a principle based, which is I'm

going to choose to be a value creator. I'm going to honor

relationships. So whether you're extroverted, introverted,

perfect. You don't need a personality type to succeed in

business and to succeed in sales. It's you need principles

and the principle of I'm going to be a giver and I'm going to

take care of people. And as you've heard me say before: when

you take care of people, people take care of your business.

Okay,

right? And so it's just true. It's like, hey,

I want to show up and add value. Can I tell you a recent thing

that's on my mind?

Please do.

There's a gal in my network that we've known

each other probably three, four years. We met speaking at an

event years back, and and she's just a zesty, vibrant woman, and

she hosts different kinds of retreats to help you grow your

your your speaking business specifically. And she is just

she's crushing it as a speaker. She's great. Well, she invited

me to attend her very exclusive weekend mastermind intensive as

her guest,

nice,

and that was a huge. I mean, people are flying

in from all over. She has a wait list. Happened to be because I'm

in the same town that it was like, hey, this opened up. Would

love for you to come. Would love your energy there, and her

generosity to me. And again, we had this connection, this

relationship. I've now helped her enroll several people for

her upcoming events as just a form of a. I think it's a great

fit for the clients and these friends and connections. It's

just the power of relationship where she showed up generous

with me. That generosity has currently made her quite a bit

of money, and I just love like sometimes you can see it the way

sometimes you can't but we can go as far as deep as you want on

this like well what are some of the tips and the practices and

the things like this but just knowing like the mindset is like

you say who do you want to be in relationship what do you want to

be known for in business and it's like so when Laura says hey

you want to be on the podcast? Hot dang! I sure do. Let me tell

me the time. We'll figure it out. We'll get there, 100%

because it's you, and we have a connection. And my experience of

you is always kind, generous, sharp, smart, and she's

stunning. I mean, that's like she's just a beautiful,

beautiful, stunning woman, but that's the packaging because her

light on the inside is so bright too. You know, it's just great.

So, yeah, I think all of you listening, it's like, how do I

want to show up in relationship? How do I nourish my

relationships? Do I have any kind of plan or system to that?

Because when we hear this kind of advice, we all go. Yeah, I

should be better at writing handwritten notes. I should

reach out more and set up lunch or coffee dates. I should send

the texts. I should appreciate more. I should help other people

get connected more and be a connector. But it's like, oh

yeah, they hear it, but the living

it. Yeah. Well, and you said something earlier

that just kind of I want to pull this back in here is the idea of

self-love, right? What does it look like to nurture and nourish

ourselves first? And it's non-negotiable in my experience

as a leader. To you know, my childhood was what it was. I

went through what I went through that had me be where I am today,

and I can say that people see me today on the other side, looking

really good and really put together, right? And there was

so much pain, and what I what I grew up with was the message

that I was not wanted, that if I hadn't been born, my mother's

life would have been completely different, and the the shame of

that, right? And carrying that, and I think about how many

people quietly carry shame, and how many people quietly carry

pain and messaging from their youth, and how do they get

through that? Right? You know, again, for the grace of God,

that God put angels in front of me who said, "Hey, girlfriend,

it doesn't have to be this way. Right? There's there's other

possibilities. He handed me books, and and I was a good

student, and I was hungry. I was hungry and thirsty for lack of

attention, right? And there was that part of the journey, but

then there was the journey of learning the power of taking

care of myself, so that I could give from the overflow, and not

in a not in like a just a. Way, but like in the true

manifestation of what it takes to lead leaders and to lead my

own life in a way that I I hope is a good stewardship of the

gifts that God has given me. You know, talk to us a little bit

about your own journey with self love, because again, the time

that I've known you, you've been like the total package, no.

There's always something that

happens. Oh yeah. Oh honey, that's an

illusion. P.S. Everyone, right? Like we're talking forever.

How did you discover the power of you know

the magnificence? You know, there's one of a kind, each of

us. How did you discover that?

I love you so much. Can I just say that? Like,

and I love we're having just some real talk. This one topic

too. We could be here for quite some time, but

days and days.

I want you all to write something for me in

your notes because I use the word value quite a bit, talking

about adding value to others in relationship, and I want you to

put like maybe the word value in large letters, and then above

it, I want you to write own your value, and then underneath it, I

want you to write add value, and that it's this. It's not either

or. It's yes and. It's the yin and the yang. It's like having a

deeper, healthier relationship with you. Yes, and having a

deeper relationship with community contribution service

that will bring you so much beauty and healing, as you know.

But they they are interchangeable, and let me just

when it comes to self love and the self worth work,

there's absolutely, I think, levels of "quote unquote"

healing that we can do, but it is an ongoing relationship, and

the rents due every damn day. Sorry, friends, the rents due.

Can't get out of it, and

you're laughing, as you

know,

it is kind of so. Yes, and it's

yes, and that's just the illusion of like

you have it all perfectly put together. Oh, it's an illusion

for every one of us. Everyone you have on a pedestal on social

media, if they're honest, they would say similar things. No, it

doesn't mean that every day is a hot mess. Express it doesn't

mean that every day we're in the doldrums of the depression or

the challenges, but we need these are muscles that we have

to use or we lose them. The rents do every day, and so

that's also helped me with my process because my a younger

version of myself rewind the clock say 10 years is working

with this beautiful Buddhist life spiritual coach, God had

propped into my life, and he was this beautiful human. And I was

like, "Is this a yes? And it was such a yes. And we were working

together. And I remember Laura listened to this. I I had hired

this gentleman, and it was quite pricey,

all

over the phone. He lived in Santa

Barbara. I'm in Salt Lake City, Utah. And this is August, and we

started working together probably like late january 1 of

February. So for several months, and I just thought, you know,

and I'd done workshops and things, but I'm going to hire

this like man who is like the in my mind the you know he's

embodying all of this energy. And at the time, I was getting

on a session with him again, probably six months after us

working together, and I'd been feeling a lot of anxiety. And I

got on that call with him, and I was hot. And I don't mean hot in

a good way. I mean hot, pissed off.

I was ticked,

angry because I'm like, why am I still having

anxiety? I know there's nothing to fear. I I've done all this

work, my faith and trust, and I've checked all these boxes,

but I'm still feeling anxious. And in his light, lovely Indian

accent, he kind of giggled, and he was just so lovely. And he

just said, "Tiffany, we practice love over fear. And part of me

didn't love that, you know. Like I want to check the box and be

done with that.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I want to pray. I

want to pray for guidance, but I necessarily want to pray for

obedience. Right,

right. But then it was like also so

liberating that we practice self love, we practice self worth, we

practice love over fear. I still at times deal with anxieties.

Anxiety shows up for me. I sometimes still deal with

insecurity. Sometimes, Laura, I feel like my eighth grade self,

and I have a photo of my eighth grade self in a lot of in one of

my keynote decks when I feel prompted to share it. And I have

this permed curly red hair, these huge bangs. Like I date

myself for sure. There's going to be for sure. I'm wearing a

pair of guest jeans and have a caboodle. You know, like

sponsored by Aquanet. Everyone, you have to be a certain age to

get these references, right? Right.

But it's like sometimes you know my eighth grade self who was

highly insecure. Where do I fit in? I'm not wanted. I so

understand the wound of not feeling wanted, girl, sister to

sister. I. Feel you, and I think a lot of you know that it's like

oh, and it's like ah, and and how do I look and how do I sound

and everything was about that ongoing insecurity. And there's

times now as a grown woman, I still feel like my eighth grade

self. I share this to normalize, right? Because we're in the

practice of healthier self love, self worth. I've moved that

needle quite a bit. Is it perfect? No. Is the rent still

due every day? Yep,

that's good.

And so doing those things like I do, you

know, okay, I start my day with intention. Some people call that

power hour, morning ritual, whatnot. But it's like starting

my day with God with reading and prayer. Ideally, I start my day

with a workout, right? Some days it comes later in the day, a

nice walk, things that I read, things that I listen. I'm a big

fan of gratitude journaling, you know. Also, these classic things

in the personal growth world, but but the foundation, may I

say this, because those are all things we can do, and you've

heard, and some of you are doing them religiously, and you're

like, and there's still this really deep hole on the inside.

At some deep, deep level, you must choose yourself, and we

wait our whole lives, especially as women, to wait to be chosen.

We have 1,000,008 fairy tales around being chosen, and I love

that fairy tale, and I love the feeling of feeling chosen. I

love when my sweetheart, the way he shows up and says and does

certain things, but foundationally, I must always

choose myself, and like, and not just like okay, fine, but some

of us are hanging out with ourselves with kind of an energy

like I guess I'll tolerate you, versus I love you, I choose you,

I'm never gonna leave you. Like some of this work, like I've got

you, I want you, like the wanted wound. I choose you, I like you.

Who am I? And like letting yourself even one of the gifts I

think of some timing and age is like, ooh, I get to explore all

these different things. Like, who do I want to be and choose

to be, and what are some interests and hobbies? But

foundationally, it's like I'm going to choose me, and I'm

going to show up for me. There's quite a bit of healing that

happens when there's a legitimate choice that's

happened, like a legit, like oh, I've moved into ceremony. I even

after I got divorced, I'm married now. But my when I was

married before, and then I was single a long time. I got to you

know was in the process of getting divorced, and I took

myself on a little date down to Tiffany's. I was like warmed up

Tiffany's. Yes,

warmed up my American Express, right? Like

we're gonna use this baby, make it hot, get it hot. It's gonna

get used. And I bought myself this beautiful little band that

I wear on my right hand. I know some of you are just listening

to this, and some of you can see this, but this tiny little band

of pave diamonds. This is my covenant ring with myself. Like

I wear it on my right hand regularly. I don't take it off.

I sleep in it, shower in it. Occasionally, I'll take it off.

You know, of course, to clean it. But the reality of like I'm

in relationship. I'm in vow with myself first, and I still even

when I even after buying the ring, it's like that was a cool

moment, and I still have to practice the inner work

regularly. Yeah,

I I think it feels like I I often experience

this as the good news and the bad news, right? Like the the

bad news, if there is a bad news, is that the that inner

voice doesn't always go away, right? That it's still there, it

still can pop up at times, but the good news is it doesn't have

to drive us. And I love the the covenant you have with yourself,

right? And having a ring to actually remind yourself of your

relationship and your commitment to yourself. I love that. I

didn't know that about you, and I love that you're. So if

you want to go buy yourself a ring, you have

full commission. We'll go like. like, "Hey, sweetheart, I have

to go do an assignment. My coach gave me an assignment. Yeah,

maybe for you it's a necklace, but it's it was just you know we

have jewelry and we have artwork and things that are anchors. But

I'm so glad you asked that because I think it is easy to

look at someone's social media, their website, their speakers

reel, and it feels really like wow, they're so put together.

And while lots of times I am, I'm in my confidence, I'm in the

zone, as are you. There's also plenty of times that I'm not, or

that the blues have shown up, or the anxieties, or the

insecurities, or the self doubt, and I'm getting to practice my

tools once again. We practice. So when that coach of mine, his

name's Dawa, said that to me, we practice love versus fear. It

was quite liberating, and it also it's just like you know I

went to a Pilates class this morning. I love it. But it's

like just like you get back on the reformer, you get on the mat

in yoga. We practice, and it's the same thing with self worth

and self love. Is that it's not like, well, I'm there, check the

box. It's that's a muscle I'm going to continue to invest in.

Yeah, and and think about the value of what's

worthy again of your time and your attention. If we think

about the body as the vehicle carrying our essence, I believe,

in my own experience, it deserves to be nurtured and and

regarded with gratitude. Right? I mean, because without that,

we're not here. So it's not we're not here in the way that

we understand being here, right? So this is like the simple thing

Does the body want movement? And if so, let's do that. If the

body wants fuel, what kind of fuel do we want to nourish it

with? What do we want to give it to show it that we love? I'm

drinking my little vitamin water over here. Like, what do we want

to give it to show it that we love it? And instead of all the

the punitive conversations, and I was severely anorexic as a

young woman. So, just using the the conversation in my head

around healthy eating and healthy living, what's really

been a paradigm shift for me is nourishing my body in the way

that I would nourish a loved one. Right, the way I would take

care of someone that I care for. What would I feed that person?

What would I give that person? As opposed to like the punitive,

you can't have this, you can't have that, right? And if we give

ourselves enough of the the goodness, the body is so strong

and resilient. It's really magical. It's just designed.

It's one of God's greatest gifts, I think, to us is to have

a body that is self healing, right, is pretty miraculous in

the whole way that it wants to grow and it wants to heal

itself. They were reading something about like the robots,

and then one of the challenges with the robots. Sorry for the

brain fart, but it's going to come up. Was one of the

challenges about the robots is they can't figure out how to

create self healing skin yet, right? One different one of the

differentiators. They can get the robot to do all kinds of

cool stuff, but they can't figure out how to make the skin

heal itself. Now, by the time this comes out, who knows what

will cover? But I think about the miracle of self-healing

skin. Like, what's that all about? That's great, right? So

good. So more nourishing, more loving ourselves, more honoring

that it's not up to someone else. I love that, right? We're

not waiting to be chosen. We can choose. Yeah, really beautiful,

Tiffany.

Well, I think it's really liberating too. And

and as someone who is like just traveled that path very

intimately, it's like, oh man, I feel you. I get you. And here's

how we start to create and shift that: is you get to choose.

Yeah,

yeah,

yeah. So good. So good. So good. Lastly, I

heard you say in another interview something about your

keys for success, and I'm wondering how that feels for you

today. If you're starting it today while we're having this

conversation in 2026, what are you aware of that have really

been the pieces that you say, like, "Hey, this was the thing,

or "This was a couple of things, or "This is the this is what I'm

aware of every day that I honor and commit to again and again

because the rents do every day. I think that's what my

girlfriend told me. Yeah. What does that look like in your own

life? You say like, what had this success really be clear for

you?

I think that you know. Again, we could have

lots of things, but if I was to pick, say, three key things that

are really relevant right now, I'd say first and foremost is

like we were talking about is is your commitment to your own self

and those practices, those habits that invite well being.

They invite energy, like you were saying. There's certain

things that we choose that give energy, and there's certain

things we choose that take energy. And so it's being in

discernment of that, of making some of those as choices and

decisions, those habits. Also, say you know, foundationally

alongside of that is my relationship with God and my own

relationship spiritually. And again, however you connect to

that, whether it's you know for some of you Bible study or for

some of you, that means going to yoga, or perhaps it's you know

doing service, and there's all kinds of ways we presence to

that relationship. But I think the heartbeat of that, right, is

like your own inner compass and your own worth aligned with your

higher power. Of like that work is so good, and then secondly,

like we were touching on, is I think the relationships, and I

think one of the gifts of getting a little bit older, so

to speak, or that we have a little more awareness, is really

being intentional there too, and choosing that is that

relationships that nourish you and that multiply you and

magnify you. And that you really can make choices in your life of

who you spend time with, and just because someone's been in

your life for a long time, right? Like, may they may or may

not still need to sit in first class in your life. They might

need a new seat assignment sometimes, right? But the the

power of having great relationships in your life, and

you don't need a million of them, but to invest in them, to

show up for them, and also allow them allow them to show up for

you too,

right? Huge, but

having relationship, right, and things

like that. And then finally, I'd say the third thing is that you

have some form of way of contribution, service, impact.

Is that you know all the success in the world and beautiful

handbags and don't get me wrong I love them okay I love a good

handbag

yeah

but what really lights you up and what

really gives your life purpose and just richness is being part

of something and that's why again I'm so drawn to what

you're doing with Limitless woman and like the work that you

do and the giving back and and finding the ways that you want

to. It might be joining and linking arms with Laura and

really being part of that. It might be your local food bank or

your you know boys and girls club or you find a way to mentor

or maybe volunteering at the animal shelter. There's lots of

ways to do it, but contribution service is really the secret

sweet sauce of life. It really is. I think in our my earlier

career, nothing wrong. I still always had this vibe of wanting

service and contribution.

Yeah,

but my earlier self was much more driven, you

know, by money and accolades and things.

We probably had to receive. I mean, you had to.

All of us as young humans have to reach a certain level of

sufficiency, right? We're in we're in the evolution of our

our psychology of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. You know,

just we we have to figure it out, and then it may be. I I

know in my own experience, I was doing the work of work building

businesses and building life, and then I would be

volunteering, you know, on nights and weekends. It was kind

of a side; it was a side hustle, not kind of. It was just my side

hustle, right? And so when I started being asked to lead and

speak, and it was not anything I ever thought I would be capable

of doing, let alone embrace doing, I prayed to be shown. How

do I stop having you know one foot over here on Saturday and

another foot over here on Monday. How do I bring these two

things together? Which is really how the model of limitless women

came together because it didn't. I couldn't see it, and I could

find good role. I could find great role models in the for

benefit nonprofit world, and I could find amazing role models

in the private sector world. But I couldn't find a place where

women were coming together in our natural way, right? The way

that we tend to be frank, way that we get to give, you know.

And I see this. I'm so reminded when I get out of technology and

I get into real spaces with women in person. How natural it

is for us, right? How much we really we're designed. We're

designed to give, and we have to receive. So I love that you said

that, right? I mean, without receiving, giving doesn't

happen. Giving can try to happen, but it needs a receiver.

So the receiving as a form of giving is such an act of

generosity. My friend Starladden said that to me years ago.

Receiving is a form of giving, and I just my brain was like,

"What?

It's so true,

but it really is receiving is an act of

generosity. So I love that you brought that up as part of the

success principle, right? I mean, it really you need to yeah

that come to you.

Yeah, and there again, there's lots of

ways to do it, and I think sometimes we might think, well,

once I make a gazillion dollars, then I will give back, or once I

do this, then I'll and it's like no, find the way now. Whether

you can donate $20 now or two hours of your time a month

somewhere, if you want a rich life, a wealthy life in all the

ways of what that word means, it will have absolutely

contribution and impact and some form of of giving back. And you

know this because you're living it, but just to verbalize that

and how potent it is for us is like, yeah, show up for

yourself, right? Show up in relationships. Show up with

purpose. There's there's lots of other things we could elaborate

to, but I think the foundation is like that's to me what you're

creating a successful life.

Yeah,

yeah, feel

good.

Yeah,

all right, my love. It has been such a

privilege and an honor to interview you. Is there anything

else you'd like to share? If you were to go back in time, is

there anything you wish you knew then that you know now that you

want to pay forward? You've given us so much wisdom here. So

I'm like, and what else you got? What else you got, Tiffany? I

love you, and I'm just or am I at launch? Here we go. Let's go.

But but I but I do want to know if there's any. You know, I just

want to make sure you're complete, my darling. That you

well, I

what comes up for me as you ask that is

intuition, which is in essence how we started.

Yes, ma'am. And my

own intuition is I love the reminder of the

power of. And I just invite you, listening, is asking yourself

through your own best life coach. You just need to tune in

and ask yourself, what decisions do I need to make? Excellent.

What changes, choices, things I need to release, let go, or

begin or continue? Like become an the active driver in your

life, the active architect of your life and saying, "Okay,

let's take a pause and let's look at where am I? Am I in

alignment with where I want to be, where I want to go? What

decisions do I need to make? Right? Is the the power of that?

I one of my favorite quotes of all time, and there's a lot of

them, but one of my favorite of all time is a gentleman named

Foster Hubbard, where he says, "Doing isn't difficult; deciding

is. Doing isn't difficult, deciding is. So making some

decisions, whether it's in your health and wellness, it's in

your business, it's in your heart, your home, relationships,

and choosing again to decide, choose, and honor where that

might take you

so beautiful, darling. Yeah, appreciate you. I

love you. Love you, big. Really grateful. Really, really type.

Thank you

for having me.

All right, and before we go, where can we find

you? Give us a couple of things before my computer's going to

die. We're going to run out of bags. What? Yes. And we'll put

all this in writing, obviously. But I want them to be able to

hear it, in case somebody's traveling, I want them to know

how to connect with you, Tiffany Love. Where will we find you?

You can find me@tiffanyspeaks.com is my main

website. Several free downloads and gifts for you there to help

support you in your growth or sales journey. And then,

secondly, you can find me on Instagram at Tiff Peterson, or

maybe by the time this goes live, it will be Tiffany Love.

Yes. Yes, we'll see. You'll be able to find me though. So those

are some great places to connect.

We'll keep ourselves updated on you, and we

so appreciate you, Darla.

Thank you.