What happens when being the dependable achiever and giver begins costing you the relationship you have with yourself? Alfina Lofaro shares how she moved beyond overgiving and burnout to love deliberately, trust her inner wisdom, and build a healthier relationship with herself.
What Youāll Hear:
- How Alfina learned to associate love and belonging with achievement, helping, and doing more
- How being the dependable āgood girlā led to overgiving, workaholism, exhaustion, and burnout
- How the belief āI have to earn loveā can shape our relationships, boundaries, choices, and leadership
- Why our relationships can act as mirrors, revealing patterns that need our attention
- What it means to love deliberately through compassion, trust, communication, forgiveness, and healthy boundaries
- Why listening to your body and inner wisdom matters before exhaustion forces you to stop
Resources Mentioned
**āØ Learn more about the AIM High Sanctuary: https://aim-high-sanctuary.circle.so/commit30days**
What's Standing Between You And The Relationships You Want? https://alfina.systeme.io/relationship-quiz
Featured Guest: Alfina Lofaro
Alfina Lofaro grew up on a 300-acre farm in rural Queensland, the daughter of Italian migrants, in a family and culture where she learned early that love could feel conditional and that belonging had to be earned.
For years, she tried to prove she was enough by doing more. She built a successful career, gathered qualifications, gave generously to the people around her, and became the person others could rely on. What she did not realise at the time was how much of that energy was being spent away from the relationship that most needed her attention: the one with herself.
Follow Alfina Lofar:
- What's Standing Between You And The Relationships You Want? https://alfina.systeme.io/relationship-quiz
- Website: https://www.alfinalofaro.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alfinalofaro/
Meet the Host: Carolyn Cooper
Carolyn Cooper is the woman highācapacity women in business call when life looks impressive but their soul knows something is off. She works with soulācentered, loveāinspired leaders who are done performing success and ready for results that feel true and aligned. As host of the Love Inspired Leadership Podcast, creator of the AIM High Method, and founder of the AIM High Sanctuary, she offers a potent, graceāfilled space where women tell the truth, regulate their energy, and clean up their boundaries. In this Sanctuary, they connect with deeply aligned partners, watch their businesses soar, and experience deeper joy, clarity, tangible growth, and sustainable prosperity, all from their authentic identity.
Connect with the Host:
- Website: https://aim-high-sanctuary.circle.so/commit30days
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiredconnectioninc/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspiredBusinessDevelopment
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/inspiredbusinessdevelopment/
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