Break Free from Limiting Beliefs: Discover the God-Given Identity That Changes Everything With Raquel Soto

We welcome you back to the Love Inspired Leadership Podcast, and holy moly, we have an incredible conversation intentionally planned for you today, our audience, who we hold in such a sacred space for you to receive what it is you need today in this moment that you're listening, whether you are bike riding, driving in your car, on a walk, doing your dishes, or simply want to recalibrate and recenter yourself as a love-inspired leader, and this podcast is the joy of my huge part of my life, and I feel so blessed with the opportunity as having these truthful, authentic, real conversations, and I'm super excited. Who I get to bring you today, and I welcome the audience to just open your minds, open your hearts, and open your spirits for this meaningful conversation. And I recently met this incredible woman through another strategic alliance that I respect, admire, and truly love Michaela Quillicci, and as soon as we got on, I felt this instant soul-centered connection of truth alignment and this loving radiance. So I'm super excited to introduce you to her. So let me introduce you to her first. Her name is Raquel Soto. She is the CEO, founder, and creative producer and authority amplifier. Hm. love that who helps faith driven entrepreneurs align with who they are and how they show up in the world as their authentic selves to make the biggest difference, so through her work, Break Your Limitations, Raquel combines faith, neuroscience, emotional regulation, media, and creativity to help people renew their minds embrace their God-given identity, what I think is their brilliance, their radiation of love, and she supports them in creating lasting transformations. So, if you've ever questioned your own self-worth, struggled with limiting beliefs, or wondered, how do I lead from a place of deeper authenticity of who I am. This conversation is going to encourage and inspire, and just I think may bring some gems and some gifts

that you've been waiting for, so Raquel, I'm super jazzed about you being here on my podcast, and honored, and feel exceedingly grateful. Thank you.

Oh, thank you so much for that. I'm so excited. This is importance of, you know, being in the right rooms and really connecting with people at a deeper level, because that way when they introduce you to other people, it's just like, oh my gosh, it just feels like that's my sister from another mister, like we've been on my life online, bestie, so I love that, that you know we were connected by Michaela, I love Michaela, and then she's like, oh, you really need to meet Raquel, and so I shout out again to Michaela, but this is again the importance of getting in the rooms, get to know people, take the slow down enough to go deep with people, and not just go shallow,

Yeah, and it's it's truly about being curious and open, and you know, I mean, as soon as we met, I knew I knew that you were doing similar work to me. I mean, barely even a couple of sentences that came out of your mouth that I went, oh my goodness, because when we are in the presence of someone else serving from their highest self, here from their truth alignment and radiance of love. There is such a joy in my soul and gratitude because you're doing it in your form, which is so interesting and. Really excited for the audience to find out how that is, but also for me to know that this kind of goodness is being contributed to business leaders around the globe, just brings so much joy and love to me too. So I'm just super excited, so let's, let's, let's dive in. Okay, so you know, you, I loved our conversation at our Zoom chat, and that's all we've had that I want the audience to know is a half an hour Zoom chat, and it was so inspirational to me. I said, you, you, you've gotta come on my podcast, so here she is. So, let's, you know, what I, what I find interesting, and what's learning me right now is this willingness to surrender to who we are, and, and why we're here, and, and how we can serve from this place of our highest selves. Can you take us back to that time that you realized that you had built much of your life around being capable rather than being whole?

Yes. Yeah, I, you know, a lot of times when people become entrepreneurs is because they hate the job they're working at, like I just wanted to escape, you know, and for many of us, you know, it because we are capable, we've been in places where we keep on going higher, higher in the ladder, and so it becomes a golden cage for us, where they know how to keep us in this trap of not moving on, because the money is there, the honor is there, the respect is there, so it's, you know, it's a constant dopamine hit, you know, that we're getting over there and making bonds through oxytocin, because we're getting fed in some ways, even though we know we're supposed to move on, and so I really loved what I was doing, and it's funny, because when I was initially sharing this story, God will be like, yeah, you're romanticizing it, and, and that's the truth, I was romanticizing it, you know, it's just like, oh, I really love what I was doing, that is true, but you can have different truths running at the same time, it was true, I did love what I was doing, it's true that it, that I got all these, you know, accolades and things like that, and my team was always very successful in what we did. At the same time, I was working way too many hours. At the same time, I was not being the kind of mother that I wanted to be. At the same time, because of other things that are happening in my life, my mental health was really breaking down, my hair was falling out. I was losing a lot of weight, and everybody was like, 'Oh, your life is great. Meanwhile, I, to me, I look like a bobblehead, you know, like I was so thin. I started wearing hair pieces just because my hair had fallen out so much, and so all these things were happening at the same time, you know, where you know I was getting what I felt I needed, and I was doing things, you know, for the sake of the family, and that's the other thing too. Right, a lot of times we're doing things that sound responsible,

that sound honorable, I sound like the thing to do, full of wisdom, but what the children really needed was my presence, and they weren't getting that because I was working, you know, 60 hours, and when I was with them physically, because I worked in international offices, and I would, I would, you know, oversee international offices, then when we're sleeping, you know, ages waking up, so they would send me questions, and so then toward the end of the month I was in finance, so all these questions are coming up, and so I was not present with my children, and so I was like, "Oh, this is so when God, you know, opened the door, said I want you to leave in 90 days, and I was like, "Okay. So I thought it was because of entrepreneurship, but he was

His question about that. How did you receive that information? Because that's that's the critical piece here in this navigation through listening to your own internal voice of wisdom and honoring that, so how did that land? Was it did you hear it once, or was there like a knock, knock, knock on the door to change? Did you resist it, because that's what I did for a long time, because I made the money more important than that, and the success, and the accolades, and the ego, and all of that. So, I think there's a lot of women in this audience that are tracking with you, going, that's me, oh my goodness, that's me. So, how did the information arrive in regards to the new direction that you received,

It was at the end of March of 2019 and, and I have this running joke where God is like, "Don't you have any other children? because every time I go into a prayer meditation or a longer fast, I come out with a honeydew project for themselves. Was like, I was like, you don't have any other kids capable, so I was in, I was going out of a time of that, and it was just a drop, and it was just like, I, I want you to leave within 90 days, Fourth of July is your Independence Day, and I was seriously, I was just because of the right, I was being responsible, and even though I was doing like some things on the side, and that was making money as well. Again, taking time away from everything that I was saying was important. I was just like, well, you've got mail Jesus, I need this amount of money to come in within the next 90 days, and just to make sure that I'm not hearing things, and if it comes in, then I will follow through, because that, that'll be my proof, my physical proof. And it was just like I said, hold my beer. So, so the first six weeks, everything was just kind of happening the way it was happening. I was still getting like clients on the side and doing that work, and then all of a sudden, the last six weeks my business was just rushed with 1000s and 1000s of dollars, and then at the end of that 12 weeks it was like, well, I did my part, and I was like, well,

You got to do your part here too, you got to step up

Yes. So then I did it, but I didn't do it, so I turned in my resignation, and because my hands were a lot of cookie jars in my head, I was just like, why don't want to just leave them in two weeks, they've been really good to me. I was there for over nine years, and everybody's like, why don't you stay until your 10th, because then you get the sabbatical. I'm like, I don't know, I'm supposed to go now, and they're like, that's crazy. So I was doing something that was like, it didn't make any sense to anybody else, but I was like, well, that's what he, I'm being led to do, so I'm going to do that, but I didn't go right away the way I was supposed to, so I gave him two months, and then, and then they contracted me, and I was like coming into the office, and I had bought myself a crown, this is like newly retired, I was like walking around the office about my retire, I was retiring from corporate, and then I came back a couple weeks later, and I was coming in the office a couple times a week, because they hired me as a consultant, and they would have continued to pay me that way, and they're like, "Well, how much do you want? I just gave them a number, and they're like, "Okay. And then afterwards, I'm like, "Gosh, this is a higher, but it's okay for the next, so that was July. I was supposed to be gone by the end of August. I was still there in October, coming in a couple times a week, and then God was just like, I said, leave them, yes, and I was like, oh, it was just one of those knowings, like in your face, I said what I said, and I was just like, "Oh, I was like, 'Oh, thank you so much for all the opportunities, but I really need to just focus on my business. And then I cut that out, and that was 2019 And then it was the timing of that, you know, a lot of times we go through things, it's because we're still, we have some character things that God is still weeding out to prepare us for the

Yes, we have

to clean all that stuff up, because there's a verse that comes to mind that says he will root out every tree that he did not plant, and those trees are belief systems, and so those things need to be rooted out, because if they come with, you know, he, there's so much love for us, he doesn't want the blessing to crush us. He doesn't want us to end up compromising like we did in the past, and then we end up hurting ourselves. So, in that love, you know? Right after I said yes, then my online business partner decided that she was.. it was.. it was weird. Sometimes people have a weird thing with me, where they like me so much, it's almost like very territorial. So, she did not want me to do business with certain people in our circle, because she thought they were beneath me, and I'll.. and I was like, "You don't get to tell me who I get to play with in my sandbox. And so we ended up having a huge falling out, and then she did this online onslaught for like six weeks, destroyed the business that I just, wow, built,

Built,

Left my other job, destroyed it. I come to the top of 2020 and then finally, after like all these weeks of really cyber bullying and having all her minions do it. People then started recognizing, like, she's not Raquel, not saying anything. And then they started realizing that it was, you know, that she had been lying. But by then my business was destroyed. It was too hard for me to rebuild what I had already built, right? And you do, I go back? What am I gonna do now? Jesus,

Yeah. And the way I mean, our stories are so similar too, is that the way I see it is that every single thing that happens, even if things fall apart, even if things are exceedingly difficult and. Stressful, it's for me to guide me and direct me. Did you feel that at that time, or were you still responding to that?

I was still responding to that, because I, I, I knew enough about quantum physics and emotional regulation and epigenetics. We're like, okay, I understand what's happening now in my body, so I know not to go back to this dark place, and for those of you who don't know, I tried to take my life four different times, and it wasn't until, because I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, the fourth, the fourth time where I was just like, okay, I don't want to come back to this dark place, what, what is really going on, and that's when God said, go study quantum physics, and then I started to see those parallels in the good book, and I'm like, oh, that's what you said. And then, as I go study epigenetics, and then I started, you know, I was like, oh, then I started to understand what's happening, and really understanding that nothing has gone wrong, it's just I'm beautifully, wonderfully made, just like everybody else, and we have this internal AI that's running it for us, and so we have these belief systems. It's like a record, and so it's, it's not partial. It is, it is a blind servant, and it is faithful. It is faithful to whatever we tell it, and not.. and still refreshing myself with the truth. Even this morning, I think that is a faithful servant running for me 24/7 and it's just giving me an offer that's offering me the thought that I have been, you know, I'm thinking about the last 45 to 60 days or longer, so understanding those pieces, I'm like, oh, okay, and then 20, you know, 2020 and then in March, my husband at the time, he passed away in May of 2020 but the fungalitis hit, and then he went into the hospital in March, and he didn't come out, so it was, it was rough, so it was a really rough few years, I mean, it took a few years for me, just to get my, my footing back, and, and coming back to who I, who I am, but through the process, it's, it's like I will learn something, and then go teach it, I will learn it, and then go teach it, because

I will be so excited about what I just learned, I'm like, everybody needs to know about this, and I just kept doing that over and over again, and by God's grace, we always recovered. We always, you know, things always came in, so we were safe, and we were fed, and roof over our head, and opportunities kept on happening. And then really, last year up to this year, actually, even like the last couple weeks, the things that I have been putting into practice and seeding into my life and into my business. I mean, the door was not just open, it was exploded, but it took six years.

Well, the one thing that has been really ringing in my mind, in my heart, as I run my community, the Aim High Sanctuary, which is an incredible community of women and business leaders, is that it is the challenging times that we live through that nobody talks about, you know, it's that journey of letting go to lead ourselves forward from that place of truth, like you said, there's many different layers of what truth is, of what self-honoring is, in regards to that radical honesty, and that what I want the audience to know is that even though when things are exceedingly difficult, challenging life changes, things that are completely out of your control, that people don't need to do it alone, that there is so much support available to them when they're willing to ask and be open and guided and directed to that. I mean, you were directed and guided to learn about neuroscience, you were open to see about epigenetics, you know, and those were answers and solutions that you needed on this pathway of purpose in how you're showing up now within your business, and I just want to let the audience know that there are answers and solutions. It's, it's really what I call thinking above the line, which is sense of curiosity and openness, even when it's being present to even when things are issues are obstacles, challenges in our lives, and I love how you just realize that this support system from your own in. Eternal conversations with God are there to guide and direct you into your highest good, and it's that's absolutely beautiful, and so this transformation of change, not only to your own leadership, but the way that you've chosen to love, to be creative and to serve others is very inspiring to not only yourself but the people that you have the honor of impacting too, so let's explore how identity becomes like the foundation for everything else. I find this concept of authentic identity. I have my own framework called the Aim High

method, Truth Alliance and Radiance has forms in that, but I think that that's what women in business, which is mainly my audience, are yearning and searching for, and they just, they are functioning from that place you were when you were in corporate. Same with me. And so, can we explore that next?

Yes, I did want to piggyback into the last thing that you just said, though. What I wrote a song called Nobody Checks on the Strong Ones, and so that is based off a chapter, an anthology that I'm in, that's going to be coming out in October, and so that's one of the things, is that why your space is so incredibly important for women is because we are the strong ones, we are the capable ones, we are the ones everybody kind of comes to with their burdens and their issues, and then, so, where do we go if we're at the top of the pyramid, and everybody comes to us, and we don't have anybody else? So, having the sacred space that you have for women to come in is because we need that space, because we're often the one that people come to. So, is this just a plug spaces like yours exist and are so incredibly needed because we're highly capable women and we're usually the ones that everybody goes to the salt of the earth, the backbone of things, but then where do we go? Cuz then we're thinking, well, if you're coming to me with my your problems and if I start sharing them with you, my, and being vulnerable, you're going to be like, well, if you can't get it together or you don't have it together, that there's no hope for me, and we don't want to burden anybody, so it's, it's your kind of your space is so incredibly needed, so I'm grateful that you, that you have that offer.

Well, I'm, I'm grateful too, it's, it's my sanctuary too, and I'm so honored to hold this space for all these incredible women, and it's a safe place. It's a place that people can show up with vulnerability. You're absolutely correct, and speak their truth from a very deep place that maybe they can have those conversations with other people, and to be, I think our responsibility as business leaders, as women, is to come from this place of love, because we are the love keepers, you know, so we're men too, yet it is our light that shines into those places of darkness for other people, and I, I see it truly as our responsibility within our own self leadership to come back home to who we are and live by that authentic identity, which is the same message that you have, which is so cool. So you beautifully combine faith, neuroscience, and emotional regulation beautifully. So, how did these three work together in creating lasting change in lasting transformation for people? Do you think

It kind of goes back to what we, the previous question, to write identity, so we're never going to go any farther than how we see and feel about ourselves. Every 10 seconds, our brain is checking in with the voice of our mind, which is the voice of our mindset, and that question is, Who do we think we are, and what is the emotion that is matching that particular line, right? So, if I'm feeling good about myself, is that, oh, I'm, you know, I'm somebody who's like, you know, people hang on my words, and my words are bringing life, and when I speak, you know, life is, you know, coming out, then what happens is, right, all these like little micro expressions start to manifest in your body, because every 10 seconds there's a reset, and so that's the good news, but again, it's 95% of it, it's automatic, so then if you are not feeling good, can you hijack your body to trick yourself and your body and biology for a little bit? Yes, you can, you know, like standing up and doing. The Wonder Woman pose for three minutes, because there's something about the physiology, jumping up and down, listening to your favorite song, you know, hyping yourself up, it'll work for a little while, because it'll say, oh, now it's putting you into the mood, but we're talking about it's like, think about your brain, you have a default mode, default mode network, think of it like your, your set point, and so for degrees, right. Let's say your brain is at 70 degrees, and you want it to be a 72 Well, you can hype yourself up to be the 72 but you're always going to fall back to your default, and in a down day you'll go down to 68 but then you'll pop back up to the 70, but where you want to be a 72 so you have to change the default, which is your identity piece, so that it's automatic, because can you do all these things? It's like, oh, fake it till you make it. We're not faking it, we're just realizing that this is who I want to be in the moment, and I'm not feeling like

that. So, I'm going to hijack my biology, which you can, and it'll help you, because your body is also your helper. It's always sending you signals, so it'll help you hold that space for a little bit, but because you don't believe it as a default, it'll just peter off. It's like, take, you know, it's like taking a drug, or or whatever it is to make you relax, or whatever people do in order for them to embody this other piece of because it's not part of who you believe you are at a fundamental level, it's your ideal self, you're going to fall back to your default. So, when we start looking at identity, I was like, okay, who am I really called to be in this season, and I'm not one of those people who are like, you know, I want to work a three year plan and a five year plan. I work by projects, and so I work in seasons. So, like, what is the season? Am I in? I know, like, I know if in a few years what's going to happen. Like, I already see the track. I don't know how I'm going to get there or what the thing is, but I know there's this major project that I'm going to be doing. But in the meantime, between here and there I don't know, and so, like, all right, I need to still embody that person, because I've been entrusted with that.

So, those dreams, it feels like too big, they're too big on purpose, because it feels too big, because you're growing into that, you're already that person, you're not becoming, you're shutting off, you already are that person, you already have the goods, you already have everything you need to have to pull that thing off, but right now other things are on top of it, so that's where we're shutting off these, these, you know, false belief systems of who we think we are, and again, a lot of it sounds, you know, wise and honorable things that come in through our genetics, things that get turned on because of our observance, things that become part of our belief system because of the cultures that we're in, the subcultures that we're in. I always tell people the room rewires you, and so if, if in the room people are not progressing, you know, together everybody's not, you know, coming up, and they're not working on things. Guess what's going to happen, right? If you're single, and, and you want, you want to mate, but everybody around you is always talking about how, you know, deadbeat men are. Well, it's kind of hard if you like men, you,

That's not the right room to be in.

It's not the right room to be in. You know. So, you beat your chest, like, I don't need a man, that you secretly want one, and I know you do. So, in public, you're like, I don't need a man, I'm a capable woman, I'm a boss babe. And guess what, all the high achieving, high value men, they're like, well, you said you don't need me, so why would I even approach you, even if I found you cute and interesting and attractive, and I'm attracted to you, but then I'm watching you say that you don't need a man, you don't need a mate, you know I can do everything all by myself, and it's like what you want literally will pass, will be right in front of you, and you won't see it, because you've created this persona out of protection, and so it's like stripping off, and we're like, okay, I can be in my sovereignty and whole, that's what single means. Single means wholeness. I can be whole by myself and whole with somebody else,

Of course. But you know this, this whole fascination I find between who we think we are and once the decision gets made to come back home to actually who we are, it's not about being someone different, it's, it's about the way I see it, and it's how you explained it. I'm going to share it in a little bit of a different way, but it's really coming back home to who I am as a genuine sincere, authentic woman, and it is cleaning up those areas of limitation or limiting beliefs, and it can be emotional to release those, it can be. Be heavy and challenging at times, but I, there's something that I learned a number of years ago, and it's changed my life, and it's this, I want to leave the audience with this, is that every emotion of forgiveness and compassion that's either for myself or for other people. That emotion takes 90 seconds to move through my body. I, so every single time I cry, which I did quite a bit yesterday, and releasing some of these limiting beliefs and forgiveness from the past. I let the 90 seconds roll through, and I asked myself, so is that finished? Well, no. Okay, I'm going to give it another 90 seconds. How am I now? Well, I think I'm good, and sometimes it, but it is me giving myself permission to embrace sadness, and I see so many women avoid emotion sadness at all costs, and I think that's what needs to, I mean, you know, more about this than me, especially with the neuroscience and epigenetics. I personally feel that I am creating more space for grace that I can hear God's voice within me when I clean up, when I release those things, when I create forgiveness within myself, so

Beginners are important, it's, and that's the thing, is like the 92nd rule is that after 90 seconds you're doing it to yourself, so if you're really angry and you're having all these like physical reactions, feel them, and knowing that this is grace. Allow your body to just process it out, like you said. If you ask, do you need another 90 seconds? Then take the other 90 seconds, but then after that, you're doing it to yourself. The person you're making miserable, then, is you. Like, why would you? Why would you treat yourself that way? One of the things that Trinitarians always say, they always say, when you listen to the things that they say, of why you know what is the secret to longevity, a long life, and people always think it's like, oh, because they're moving, they're eating well. No, it's like that always comes down to two things, they'll say like some other things, and it's different, but it's always two things: one, all of them will say some kind of happy hour, or they men usually drink whiskey, and women will have wine. And the second thing is that forgiveness - they all always say those two things. It's always funny to me that they always, they talk about like having a drink a day, and at the toward the end of the night to kind of wind down, or to like chat with people, but they always emphasize forgiveness, because we're either going to be in chemical chaos or in chemical bliss. All our thoughts, no thought is innocent. So every thought is creating these chemicals. So your brain is your medicine man or your drug dealer, and so we're holding on to the thought, and the more we hold on to the thought, it starts, then it starts to create emotions. So people are like, oh, well, everything's from emotions. No, it's from the thoughts. The originators are the words. Words are sacred. Stories are sacred because that's our belief systems, and so those thoughts are just manifesting those words, those stories, and that's what's giving it life through

emotions. And go ahead and feel them, because that's just data we need the data, and then we can ask. I say triggers are grace, so when you get that trigger and you're like angry or sad or like any of those things, you're like, well, I don't want to feel that way. I'm trying to be positive. I had toxic positivity, it nearly killed me. So it's like, yes, be positive, but why are you being positive while the boat is sinking? You're being positive while you're drowning, and so allow yourself to feel it, because that's the mechanism that you're so you can process it out, so you don't have all those, you know, we all the chemical reactions are good because they're there to help you, and then let them process out, but if we're stuffing them down, what happens is that now instead of processing it out, we're holding on to it, and now it gets reinforced. So, then later on, what happens? It's even a stronger trigger. It gets stronger and stronger because we're well, we don't deal with where we're saying it's okay, and our brain is interpreting that, and our heart is interpreting that as, like, oh, I guess this is fine. This is normal. We're going to reinforce this belief system, and like, now every time I see that person, I just want to like punch him in the face. That's talking to somebody. He's like, I, he's like, I forgave this, this guy, and I was talking to a gentleman. He's like, I forgave him, and I don't understand what, so he's like, but every time I see him, I just, you. He goes, and we're in spaces where I'm going to have to see him. He's like, I just get so angry, and I said, it's because you're offended, and sometimes we need to lay down our rights of offense, because that's only hurting us. I said, the issue is not that you didn't forgive him, but you're holding on to the offense, and as long as you hold on, do you have a right to be offended. Yes, because he did x, y, and z.

You should be offended, but as long as you're holding on to your right of offense, now that offense is actually hurting you, because now you're in a space that you have to be in, and you don't feel good about the way you're feeling about him, or like feeling good about yourself, and now you're physically feeling sick. I said, but when you choose to just lay down offense, like I have a right to be offended, but I'm choosing not to be offended, because that's not helping me or this person, and I love that person from over there, and that's.. I'm good with that. And then once he actually accepted that he can lay down his right of offense, he just started tearing up and crying, and all this stuff left his body, and you can see the countenance of his face. It just went from feeling tortured because of the offense, and what was happening in his brain, and in his heart, and his body was having a physical reaction. It just melted away in minutes. It was gone, and those are the things too. Sometimes we're like, well, I have a right to be angry. Yes, but you're right, you can lay that down too, because if it's not doing you any good, it's actually flooding you with toxic chemicals into your body. People always talking about, like, we need to eat clean. Don't worry about eating clean if you're mad all the time. Clean up your heart space first.

Hear, hear. So this is love in motion. Love is always the answer. Love is always the solution. And forget forgiveness is the pathway to get there. I believe in those situations, and it's when I just journaled about this this morning. It's when I walk hand in hand with gratitude and love, and acceptance of what is, and you know, I just absolutely love this alignment piece, and it, and you know, it truly reminds us what matters in life, and how we can be responsible for our lives and naturally glow grow into being fully embracing who we are and why we're here, so talk to me about living from your truth. I love this. This is the first segment of the AIM high method, too. So, what? What does that mean in living within your truth? And so that's first, second of all, what what legacy do you hope to leave here for the difference you're making in entrepreneurs and business leaders' lives?

There is this misnomer. A lot of people like to say that I want to just live my truth, but everybody's living the truth, even if their truth is a lie, because that's your default. And so, understanding, like, as long as almost you're chasing something, what's the phrase, you're asking for a chair that you're already sitting in, so you're saying that you want to live your truth, but you're already living it, because your truth is your dominant belief systems. So, if you don't like the results that you have been getting, change your belief. All our beliefs are borrowed, so you might as well borrow a good one. And so, a lot of the things that we believe we did not come up with, we assimilated other people's belief systems, and we made them our own. And so, for all of us who are entrepreneurs, that's great, because most of us are some kind of control freak, and that means you can control what belief you're going to reinforce or dismiss. So, when the things come up, right, your brain or situation comes up, that's who you really are. When you're pissed, what are those? What is it? What are the phrases that come up about yourself when you're when you're sad? What are the phrases that are coming up about yourself? Because those are the underground things that are actually running the script behind you. That's the record, that's the music that's playing. And if you don't like that at that point, that's actually people talk about rewiring your brain, and it's like the best time before, when you wake up, and before you go to sleep, that's actually not true. The best time to do is when you get the trigger, because when you get a trigger, that's awareness, and awareness is the grace gift, and now your brain is like, this is so charged, I'm open, it's like the doors are open for your for change for. Four to five hours, so if you give an instruction, then, like, oh, I always mess up, is that actually true? No, because love, one of the things is like, okay,

when you're looking at love, using love as a lens, use it in your thoughts, and the first thing is, is it true, and for it to be true has to be true all the time, so are you? Are you a failure all the time? Well, no. So now you're like, well, okay, this is a thought that I'm always a failure. Well, that's not true, and I can choose at that moment to just even a little adjustment. So you know what, it feels that way because of the circumstances event coming up, but those are just circumstances, and I get to choose the lens, and I know that I'm not a failure, because I've had many successes. And then you start naming the successes, and then it starts to say, oh, there's just maybe some information that I don't know, but I'm smart, I can learn something new, you know? I just, I receive whatever answer I need, and then you disassociate that, because as long as you don't take advantage of the trigger, what happens is your brain's like, oh, you don't want to do anything about it. When I close back up and I put this back in the files, I'll make that stronger, so then when you, it comes up again because it will, because it's a belief system. This is why the identity work is important, because it's like, okay, what are you identifying with, instead of like, my identity is this and that. No, just in the moment, what am I identifying with? Maybe I identify with that up to this point, but I don't have to anymore, and there's sometimes secondary benefits to holding on to those belief systems. The secondary benefits are maybe it's a people group, maybe it's what you get out of it. There are people that I know who want to be healed in their body from a physical ailment, but they've made the whole entrepreneurship around the disability or all their funding is because of their disability or their whole identity has been because of what's happening in their body, so what happens when that goes away? Who are they without that?

Yes, and there is this incredible transition when you realize, I mean, I realized how much when I was in corporate, and I left, my identity was connected to my accomplishments, and that was, that was incredible, humbling journey to come back home to who I am, too. So it also takes bravery and courage to look in the mirror, deep down into the mirror, as into our own individual positions of the real truth, the genuine truth, radical honesty, which is what you're speaking. So I know that you love

Yeah, I really, even this morning I was getting clarity around that, because they, one thing is, like, I want people to go to the grave empty. It is the richest soil and land in the world, because people go, you know, with their dreams, the books that they didn't write, the pursuits that they should have done, the inventions that they never follow through on, and so we make the grave rich, and so my job is to help you go empty. What is that thing that you are called to do? And then I then getting visibility and traction around that, helping you stand out in the market. So, one of the main ways people find me is through the music. It's the I write original lyrics, so I can have a conversation literally for less than five minutes, and I'm like, "Oh, I have enough information. People always just like, "What do you mean? And then I come back and I send them the lyrics, and they're like, How did you know? And they feel loved and seen and heard by a perfect stranger, even people who filmed me for a while, but then when they see it in practice, they're like, Oh, I, you got me. And then then adding the I produced the music with it, so it's the, it's the genre of their choice. I just did one for clients, and it was so funny because I ended up calling it something, so they changed the name of the podcast to the name of the song, and both of them, they were like, you know, very, you know, fun and tough women, and both of them were crying, like the first few seconds of the song. Young, I can feel the vibration and the love coming through, and it just.. we've been crying through the whole thing, because it's them. It is.. it is a piece of art. So, yeah, you can go to Suno and, you know, Chat GBT and create something that is decent and is fun, but it's not you, unless you've.. unless you've trained it very well, and unless you have an ear to understand that everything is going together, it's not going to be, it's not, it's going to sound

like everything else, right. So, what I do is really artwork, it's couture, it's music, is something that makes us immortal, and so I purposely ask questions like, if this is the only thing that this is, this was the good work that you were going to do today, and this is the only message that the person was going to hear. What do you want them to know? What do you want them to feel? How do you want to move them? And then they get to, like, you know, all this love for what they do and the people that they serve just comes out of their mouths, and then I translate that, and so everybody, like literally everyone, even the men have cried, and they're like, 'You understand me, and I'm like, 'Yeah, because it's you. So I get to play in all these different genres and sounds, and now I.. I'm attached to all these people's, you know, work for the rest of our lives, because through the vehicle of music, and amusing is great, because it, it really just takes down our filter. We're just looking to see we like the way it sounds, and then we're delivering a message, so everything is is very purposeful of delivering a message of love. And I only write songs that are motivational, that are inspirational, that are going to be changing the listener, even if it's about somebody's company, it's like, okay, but what is it that you want to leave them with?

Because we're leaving them a piece of you, so what is a piece of you that you want to seed into them, even if that's all they're going to get? And that was, and that was really your, you know, quantum entanglement moment, where you're like, that was meant to be, because sometimes you're like, well, what's my purpose? Your purpose is to do good and do it through the lens of love, and now you get to be creative with however that's going to be for me. Most of the time, people come first through the music.

Yeah, that's just absolutely beautiful, and what a gift to not only the owners to just feel the incredible vibration alignment of love and their mission and the meaning of that and to feel that physically within their body and then feel those emotions rise and celebrate in that blessing, that joy, that love, that I mean, I mean, I just think it's absolutely beautiful, and I just, I know that you're living your calling by doing that too, and it's such a beautiful thing to listen to and to witness in your position to serve from your highest self and so what love is, love is in motion, love is in action, love is, and it's a travel, and it just, it has such an extension, so I just know that each prospect client community that those businesses serve, it's like an energy that just is an integration and endless legacy for those people within their business too, and this is what I believe business is. It's love-inspired leadership and the way we realize what our role is here is through listening to our internal voice of wisdom, which I call God, too. And I had a message this morning at about 4am that landed, that's how mine come, so the and I journaled about this this morning, and this is where I want to end this. It said clearly, grasp the good, release the rest. That's what I heard. So that's the truth, and that's what you're saying here. So we're here to bring good to this world, and we get

There's always something good, a good work or more to do every single day. And so it's just like, oh, well, what have I been set up to do good today? So I get to be part of that, and that's our choice. We get to be part of that or not, I

I just imagine and dream of a world where each person intimately clearly understands this, and just imagine the energy, the love, the acceptance, the openness, the curiosity. City, the, you know, the joy, the contribution, the way we find truth and solutions immediately, and so I'm doing my piece and you're doing your piece. So, congratulations. Thank you for coming our podcast. Now, I know that you have a gift for our audience as well. Do you want to share what that

Yes, it was something that I'm always hyper creating, so it's like, how is it that I can help people practically and quick? So, because you know, it's like both sides of my brains, it has to be practical, but it has to be pretty. So, it's called the visibility quiz, and you can go to Stand Out, Stand Out dna.com and you take the quiz. It's like 92nd quiz, and everybody's been taking it and says it's like scary accurate. So it's going to discern like where you are right now based on what you're picking, and then how to double down on your visibility. And then if you keep on going down. There's three bonus questions, and when you answer those questions, they come directly to me. It doesn't go to AI. I answer those questions personally. So then you get like free mini coaching based on what you say in those three questions, and then I give you some suggestions of what you can do right now to help you in that visibility piece. So it's, it's, they give you fun names, and, but everybody's been like, wow, that is a crazy accurate. That is exactly how I'm feeling right now, and how I'm showing up right now, and where I want to go with that piece. So, if you want to double down on your visibility, or just figure out, like, what should I be doing right now, it's a really great, it's a fun quiz.

Well, that's that's awesome. I can hardly wait to do it. Oh, goody, I'm going to dive into, so for the audience, I want to also let you know that I welcome you to join us in regards to the Aim High Sanctuary. It's a community of women that are there to speak their truth, gain clarity, gain that stronger self-trust, and renewed confidence in coming back home to who you are with that fresh perspective and support and guidance for the woman that you are becoming, not the new you, but the actual authentic identity in who you are. So, I've got a link for you to join us as well. And thank you, Raquel, for your courage and your openness, because I just, you're leading from such deep presence and truth, and it's very inspiring, and you understand, I think even more than anybody I've ever interviewed what love represents and what love means and the courage to step up and lead from that place of contribution. So, thank you for joining me on the Love Inspired Leadership Podcast.

Thank you so much. I appreciate the invitation.

Thank you, and thank you to our audience. And until next week, I look forward to seeing you once again on the Love Inspired Leadership Podcast. Take good care. God bless