Rewire Your Brain in 12 Minute Increments | DFS 407

Welcome to Destin for Success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi, and today I want to continue that

conversation that I had last week with Kimberly Diaz about

rewiring your brain. So you know I'm the 12-minute success coach,

and I like to do things in short bursts, and I want to expand on

that a little bit today and talk about rewiring your brain in 12

minutes a day. So we want practical steps. We want to

strengthen our mindset, improve our well-being, and create

lasting change through small intentional daily actions. The

first thing I want to hit on is your brain follows what you

repeatedly focus on. So consistent thoughts and actions

create those neural pathways that either support or sabotage

your success. Success when you're constantly thinking the

same thoughts, and they're not supporting the life you want to

create, the life of your dreams, the health of your dreams, the

partner you want to have, then that's the result you're gonna

get. This ghost is talked about in most religions. It's it's a

thing and it's true. I've told about the story of my mom

suffered a massive stroke. She was only 62, and it wiped out

the whole right side of her brain, and that's the reasoning

ability, and part of the short-term memory is impacted.

And so, after the stroke, after she came home from the hospital

in rehab, she could do some things, but it was a little it

was a little iffy sometimes, but she couldn't watch TV because

she couldn't watch a 30-minute show. She couldn't watch a

movie. She could not focus. And one day, she told my dad she

wanted to watch the movie Grease, which was hilarious

because when it had come out, she hated it. She didn't like

anything about it. She lived during that time frame, and she

said those things didn't happen. That's not reality. She didn't

like anything about it. The singing, the dancing, the

actors. She was out. So when she told my dad she wanted to watch

it, he was shocked, stunned, and amazed. But he rented the movie,

and she wanted to watch it again and again and again. So he found

a way to purchase the VHS tape. Back in the olden days, we had

VHS tapes, and she watched that movie again and again. And over

a year, they literally burned through four VHS tapes because

you had to watch it all the way to the end, rewind to the

beginning, watch to the end, rewind to the beginning. I would

go over there and I'd say, "Hey, what's going on today? And Mom

would say, "Oh, I'm just watching Grease. You want to

watch it with me? And I'd say, "Yes, of course. Let's watch

Grease a little bit more. But in the end, one day she looked at

my dad and said, "I'm I'm tired of this. I want to watch

something else. And she was able to watch other movies. She was

very specific on what she liked and what she didn't like, and

oh, I want to watch that. Yes, I do want to watch this? Her

opinions were still there, but now she had rebuilt new pathways

to keep up with what was happening in a movie. And

recently, I heard about a friend of mine's cousin who had a

stroke, and she said, all he wants to do is watch TV, but he

doesn't want to watch the same thing. He might want to watch

all one series over and over again, but there are hours and

hours and hours versus you know a 90-minute, two-hour movie. But

he wanted to watch TV all the time. But I think that's

rebuilding or building new pathways. So, what are you

focusing on throughout the day? What are you focusing on? Where

is your attention? If you start watching something, I'll just

throw out political. You start watching something political on

Facebook, the the reels or the shorts or whatever it is, and

it's one political party or the other. You're gonna start seeing

more of it, and the more you watch, the more you're gonna

find. Evidence to support whatever your position is, and

interesting, interestingly enough, your position could be a

little bit minimal. Like I kind of believe that I'm kind of

supporting that, but the more you watch it, the more you

become entrenched in it.

The same thing is anything negative. If you keep becoming

more and more entrenched in the negative, you just keep getting

into it. I loved it when I was studying Jack Canfield's success

principles, and one of the things was if you can start

saying short, snappy things that resonate with you, it starts to

become true. I'm healthy and alive at 155, and you just keep

saying that I am healthy and alive at 155. The more you say

that, the more your brain is going to be wired to you

weighing 155. Now, for you, that might be gaining weight. For

others, it might be losing weight. You might want to be

70-five. You want might want to be 205 Whatever the five is,

that's a snappy little thing. I'm healthy and alive at

whatever. The more you say that, the more you convince your brain

of it. One of my older sisters, I'm the youngest, so everybody's

older. She said, "Just wait till you get my age, and this is

going to happen, and that's going to happen, and your body's

going to fall apart. And I'm like, "Nope, I'm out. I'm not

doing that. I reject that. Erase, erase. So some of the

gurus say erase, erase, or reject, reject, just whatever to

wipe it out of your mind because you don't want it to take up

space. You don't want it to plant. You don't want it to

grow. I often heard you get married, you have kids, you get

fat, and I was like, "Holy shit, Molly! And my mom looked at me,

and she goes, "I'm married. I had four kids. I'm not fat. And

I was like, "Well, who was telling me you did? And I look

at one of my besties, and she has three kids. I hear women

women say all the time, "Oh, but I had a C-section. I can never

get rid of my belly. Oh yeah, she had 3c sections. She's still

in a string bikini and looks hot. Like you're allowed to do

whatever you want, but it's even better when you look really good

in it. So what do you focus on? What do you focus on? If a

doctor tells you this bad disease or thing is going to

happen. The more you focus on it, the more choices you make

that will support it. I overheard a woman talking to a

doctor one time, and she said, "If my family has a history of

heart disease, is that guaranteed that I'm going to

have a heart attack, and he said, "No, it's like the

blueprint of a house. The blueprint is there. The

possibility for a heart attack is there. It's in your DNA, but

you get to choose how you build the house and how you maintain

the house, the structure is there. So if you choose not to

smoke, if you choose not to eat all fatty foods, if you choose

to eat more green leafy vegetables-that's the big thing:

green leafy vegetables, higher protein, less fat. Then even if

you end up suffering from heart disease, it's going to be much

longer down the road. If the first person in your family had

troubles in their 30s or 40s, you might push that back to your

70s or 80s because you have a choice. You can take and believe

that I'm going to have a heart attack because the doctor said

so, and you can make all kinds of choices in your life support

that decision. So, what story are you telling yourself, and

what are you focusing on? So the next piece of this is drastic

changes versus small changes. I have known people who suffered a

medical event and they quit smoking, never looked back,

never touched another one. Bam, that was it. Personally, I

struggled to quit smoking for many, many years, and in the

end, I did take the drug chantix. I'm not supporting it

or denying it. I'm just saying that was my personal path, and I

quit very easily. As a matter of fact, at work. People didn't

know for weeks that I had even quit, and they're like, "Man, we

thought you were going to be all rare because you quit smoking,

and I was not. But it was small steps. I cleaned out my car,

vacuumed it.

My husband at the time-well, my husband-he's still my husband,

but at the time, my husband worked for a company that sold

cleaning products, and they had one that was called like Smoke

Away or Smoke Out, No Smoke, something like that. It was an

aerosol, and I cleaned my car. I sprayed that in my car, rolled

up the windows, and left my car sitting out in the sun. So it

got really warm because it was like the end of february 1 of

March in Oklahoma. We can have some warm sunny days then, and

then we can have an ice storm. You never know. But this year it

was a warm sunny day, and so I left it out all afternoon and

all night. And the next day I got in my car, and oh my word,

it did not smell like smoke at all. So my first decision was to

quit smoking in the house for a week, and so my husband smoked

too, so we quit smoking in the house, and then I cleaned out my

car. So then week two, I didn't smoke in the car, and I now had

started taking Chantix. You take it a week before you quit, to

like build it up in your system. So I'm now taking the Chantix,

and I'm not smoking in my car. So at the end of the day, when I

go to my car, normally I would get in my car, and the first

thing I would do is light a cigarette. So I got in the car.

I couldn't smoke a cigarette, so I got out of the car and smoked

a cigarette, and then I got in the car and drove home, and I

got home and I wanted a cigarette. I had to go outside.

I always had to go outside at work, but at home and in the

car, I would smoke in the house and in the car. So I started

making all these little changes. So when this quit smoking day

came, it was. wasn't as hard because I wasn't smoking in the

house. I wasn't smoking in the lake house. I wasn't smoking in

the car. My husband quit smoking in the car. He's my car. He

smokes in his car still. It's very irritating. But you know he

has to do him right. So we take my car. I don't want a smoky

car, but we start doing these little things, and he was very

supportive of not smoking in the house and not smoking in my car.

That led to that success. I watch people. I have watched

people over the years go on super drastic diets. I worked

with a woman, and she was I think it was a 12 week liquid

diet plan, and this woman was very very short, so losing 10

pounds showed up a lot on her. That'd be like 20 or 30 on me

because I'm taller, and she's on this stringent diet. She doesn't

get one bite of solid food for 12 weeks, and she loses all this

weight. And she looks really good. And what do you think

happens the first time she eats an actual meal? She starts.

starts gaining weight back. I watch people go on the all

protein, no carb diets. Like the only carbs they could possibly

get were green leafy vegetables. They couldn't be peas or carrots

because those are high sugar. Apparently, they had it had to

be like green leafy vegetables, green beans, broccoli,

cauliflower, that kind of stuff, and they would lose all this

weight, and they would be really happy, and then they'd go have a

hamburger and French fries, and they'd gain 10 pounds because as

soon as ate one thing that was quote not on the diet, they

would start gaining weight again. It's not sustainable.

It's not sustainable. Often, people who lose weight

successfully do it because they make changes that are

sustainable. They make changes that are sustainable. So habits

over time build. They build and they build and they build. So

small changes are more sustainable over time. And the

third point I want to make today on rewiring your brain is you

need to protect your mental inputs as much as you watch out

for your physical health. Watch what you read, what you listen

to, what you think about.

It all directly influences your energy, your outlook, and guess

what? Your future. Results. If you're constantly saying, "I can

never do this, "I can never do that, "Never, never, never,

"Can't, can't, can't, you're gonna live in that mode. My

husband and I were going to Italy to a wedding. I begged and

pleaded for the wedding invitation, and I got it. I was

so thrilled, and so we made a whole vacation of it. And

leading up to the trip, I had really been working on a lot of

the energy healing work that I do on being able to be

physically stronger and be able to do things. It's before I had

both knees replaced, but I think my recovery was better than this

because I had done so much prep work before I had surgery. And

one day, as I'm doing this energy work, I identified a

negative broadcast message of "I can't. And my first thought when

that came up was that's a bunch of crap. My mom said I could do

whatever I wanted to, but then I started thinking of all the

times I said I can't do this, I can't do that. So fast forward

now we're in Italy and we went down to Pompeii at to see the

ruins. And Pompeii, if you don't know, is the city that was

covered in volcanic ash, and much of it they've been able to,

you know, uncover, and you can see like their houses were left

just as they were food on the table, and when we got there,

there was this huge staircase, and you had to walk to the top

of the staircase to even get to the ruins, and it was hot. It

was a really hot day. It was the first part of September, but

holy moly, every place in the world that was in summertime was

experiencing a heat wave that year. And there's the staircase,

and the guide said, "Walk partway up, turn around, and

overlook the the beautiful view below. And as you know, a lot of

people are in our tour group, and as we're getting approaching

the the staircase, people are already lined up on the side. So

like, there's nothing to hang on to. There's no railing because

people are up against the side. I just had to walk up the

middle, and I can remember thinking, I'm just going to go

straight up the middle, and I'm going to walk all the way to the

top. I'm not going to stop partway. I'm just going to keep

going. So I walk all the way to the top. I turn around, and the

view is stunning. It's as beautiful from the top as it

was, I'm sure, at the middle. And I can remember as I'm

looking at this beautiful view. If I hadn't cleared that

negative message that was running around in my brain of I

can't, I would not have made it to the top of that staircase as

easily as I did. So as we're repeating those thoughts to

ourselves, as we're watching negative things, as we're

listening to negative dramatic things, as we're listening to

hate messages, there are a lot out there. You don't have to

look far to find them, that is all being imprinted on your

brain. If people are talking about how there's no energy and

how exhausted they are, that's not a word I made it up. How

exhausted they are, and you're going to be like, "Oh yeah, I

get it. I'm exhausted too. You don't have to be. You don't have

to be. You finish a task. You have another one to do, and

you're feeling kind of drained. You can stand up and bounce on

your on your toes, like just lift your heels up and start

bouncing, and clapping your hands and breathing shallowly

and quickly as you're clapping and jumping. It's a Brendon

Burchard thing. You get all that energy or all that oxygen in

your blood, and you get all that blood circulating because you're

bouncing. Your energy is going to increase. But if you've been

watching all this stuff on oh, as you age, you don't have as

much energy as you age, as you this, as you that, that is going

to imprint on your brain, and it's going to keep you in that

point, in that place, that place of stagnation.

Where do we want to be? In a place of growth. So you can

start rewiring your brain in small increments. Of course, I'm

the 12-minute success coach, so I say do it in 12-minute

increments. You have the choice. You have more choice and more

options than you ever have ever had in the past. Choose wisely.

Choose wisely. I'm Jennifer. Takagi with Destin for success,

and I look forward to connecting with you soon.