Intention - How Clear and Concise Is Your Intention | DFS 359

Foreign Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

host, Jennifer Takagi, and I am on 123, the fourth episode,

tying back to the impact, what impact you want to make in the

world? If you've missed the previous podcast, obviously you

can back up and catch those today, when we're talking about

impact, I want to cover the topic of intention. How clear

and concise Are you on your intention? I often hear that you

have to set your intention before you start to do

something. And in the energy work I do using Dr Bradley

Nelson's Emotion Code, Body Code and belief code, before every

session, I set the intention, the intention that I am going to

do my best for the client with the God given gifts and talents

that I have and the modalities and that I intend for the best

outcome for that person. So that's one way that I set an

intention really often and clearly on what I want that

outcome to be. I've been in several masterminds and been to

several conferences where the leader of either the session or

the whole event really pressed us to set our intention for the

event. What is your intention? How do you choose to show up?

What do you want to get out of it? Because you kind of need to

be clear on that, so you don't want to go back after the fact

and say, Yeah, I didn't get anything out of it. But did you

have an intention on what you wanted to get out of it. I went

on a business cruise in January of 2024 and I had never been on

a business cruise before. I really wasn't sure what was

going to happen, how it was all going to come together, so I

just kind of bumbled my way through it. And I'm pretty

confident I didn't make the most out of it like I went, I met

people, I had a good time, I made some deeper connections,

which is always good, but I'm just gonna say it wasn't like,

business wise, that I did it as as good as I possibly could

have. I I could have done better. So when I went the next

year, my friend said, so what you know? What are your plans?

What's your intention for this event? And I said, Well, I if

you've ever been on a cruise, if you're on the same class of

ship, on the same line, which we were, it was carnival. They have

a large lime light Lounge, which is very green. It's lime green,

and it's where they host the comedy shows most of the time.

But comedy shows are an evening thing, so the event would be in

this big room during the day, and there were like 400 of us.

And in 2024 I sat against the wall, like you walk in the door,

and I walked all the way across to the opposite wall, and then

the stage was to my right, and I kind of liked that spot. I liked

that seat. I was very comfortable there. And I said,

Well, I'm just gonna sit there, and I'm gonna look cute, and

people are going to just come to me, it's going to be great. And

she goes, Yeah, tell me how that works out for you. And and the

reason I said that there is a, I don't even know a thing, a

system to determine what your design is, how you were designed

to show up in the world, and it's called Human Design. I

think if you go to human design usa.com you get your free

analysis, and everybody uses it, and then you hire somebody who

can go into way more detail and and help you with it. And so my

human design is a projector, kind of like a lighthouse, and

I'm supposed to just, like, be there and people will show up,

and the right people will show up and and when they do, then I

share my gifts and talents other people. That's not the way

they're put together. They're supposed to just, I'll use the

word hustle. They're supposed to hustle, hustle, hustle, like, go

get in people's faces. And it works out really well, but that

never worked for me, and I found out that the reason was, I'm not

designed that way, like, that's not how I'm supposed to try to

show up. So totally off topic, but a little bit of background

that you might have needed to understand this. But I was like,

Yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna. To sit over there and people are

going to come. And she's like, Well, tell me how that works

out. Well, it worked out pretty well. I made some pretty amazing

connections. It was good. It was really good. I was at an event a

couple of weeks ago, and at lunch, everybody scattered, and

I ended up at a table by myself, and I'm just kind of making some

notes about the event, and, you know, things, thoughts I wanted

to keep straight, and I looked around and I was like, wow,

there are like 200 people at this event, and I'm sitting at a

table by myself seeing all these conversations happening. Do I

feel weird about that. Does that bother me that I'm just sitting

here by myself, a part of me, an old part of me, thank goodness

she doesn't live there anymore, an old part of me would have

been like, oh my gosh, you must look so lonely and like a loser

sitting at that table by yourself. But this me like that.

Knows how I show up. And what I like to do is like I was

perfectly content. I was perfectly content, making my

notes, looking around. You know, it was pretty, the weather was

perfect. And then somebody came up and said, hey, you need to

help my friend. She's got trapped emotions around this or

that, and somebody else came up, oh, I need you to help me. So it

worked out really, really well that I was just sitting there,

because that's like, how I'm supposed to show up. So what's

your intention when you show up? Whether it's a family function

is to work. It's to an event. Like, what is it? How do you

want to show up? What's your intention? You put your

intention out there, for the world, for the universe, for

God, whatever you know, you believe in or embrace, and like,

it's out there. You've put that intention out there. I spoke to

a woman on a plane one time, and she said, What do you want to

do? And I said, Well, when I grow up and leave my government

job, I want to be a speaker and a trainer, because I think I'd

be really good at it. And she goes, Oh, you've just put that

out in the universe, and it's going to happen. I was like,

what? And she said, Yeah, doors will open. Some you'll walk

through, some, you'll reject but the doors will keep showing up

until you embrace this new you and I need to go find some dates

and stuff. But it was, it was quite a few years before it

actually all came together in a really good way. So be focused

and clear about what your intention is. There is a phrase

that I've heard a lot in my life, and that is, the road to

hell is paved with good intentions. So I went and looked

it up, and it actually is not a verse in the Scripture. It's not

a verse of the Bible. So we've been told that all our lives.

Well, I have anyway, and it's not even a real thing. However,

there's a theme that runs through the Bible, and the theme

is, you set your intention, you have your beliefs, and you must

take action. You must take action. If you're not taking

action, you're not moving forward, and you're stagnant.

And Brenda Burchard said something, and I'm not going to

get this exactly right, but you'll get the the picture, and

that is a couple has been married for a while, short,

while, long, while. Doesn't really matter. They've been

married a while, and they kind of quit doing fun stuff because

they get into a habit. They get into a routine. And that's kind

of one of the benefits of being married for a long time. But at

the same time, if you're both in that mode of, yep, this is as

good as it gets. This is what we're gonna do. Then you don't

move forward and do anything. And then you see this couple

divorce, unfortunately or fortunately, depending on the

circumstances, and all of a sudden, she's out doing this and

that, and he's skydiving, and she's and you're like, oh my

gosh, I had no idea that had so many interests. And it's because

once you get so comfortable, you quit having that intention for a

good relationship. You quit setting expectations and

creating

activities adventures to keep things moving forward and being

bigger and growing. And I worked with a man many years ago, and

he was in his mid 60s, probably, and retired from a bank. He was

a vice president at a bank. And I said, Sir, why are you here?

Like he was working for me, and I was in my 20s. I was like, why

are you. Year, why are you working? And he said, because

all my friends retire and they die within one year, and I don't

want to be that. And this is easy for me compared to what I

did as a vice president. This position is pretty easy, so I'm

pretty happy to come in every day. And I was like, wow, that

was like, earth shattering news to me. And it was like, Yeah,

you have to take action. You have to keep moving, or you do,

like, sit down and die, like that book younger next year,

every cell in your body is either decaying or growing, and

what you want is formed to grow faster than they decay, so that

you are stronger and healthier and live longer. But who wants

to live longer if you're not in good health, physically,

emotionally, spiritually, all those things. But I think, from

my own perspective and people I've worked with, if you're not

taking action in your life, whether it's your personal life

or your professional life, or if you're an entrepreneur like me,

you're not taking action because you're not clear on what you

want, you're not clear on what You want, and you haven't really

picked a desired outcome. What is the outcome that you would

like to have happen? I have spent more money than I want to

admit, hiring coaches, business coaches to help me dial in who I

wanted to be, how I wanted to show up, what product I wanted

to offer, what service I wanted to offer, and I'm just here to

tell you it didn't turn out either how they promised or what

they implied. Like it there's probably a little gray, blurry

Ness between the actual promise or like they sort of implied

that's what was going to come out of this situation. But in

the end, it all tied back to me not being able to articulate

very clearly what I wanted and what I wanted my business to

look like, and did they have the services to offer me to make

that happen? What was it? What was my intention? What did I

want to happen? I recently. I recently heard. I've recently

heard a lot. I guess I need to drop recently out of my

vocabulary there. Sorry about that, folks, but a lot's been

happening in my world. But I heard that when you go in to

have a conversation with someone, whether it's going to

be a really positive conversation or a negative

conversation, negative in that you need something in their

relationship, the interaction to be different. It says, set your

intention like, what is the best possible outcome for this

scenario like, before you have the conversation. In the end, I

want to scream and yell and throw a fit and win. That is an

outcome. It may not be like the best choice for the overall long

term health of the relationship or the situation, but what do

you want the intent to be when I would go to training on putting

people on a performance improvement plan, they always

said your point in this is to adjust the behavior. It's never

to fire the person. It's never to fire the person. It's always

to adjust the behavior so that they're acting, reacting and

doing their work the way you want and need them to do it. I

really found very few supervisors who embrace that,

because by the time they got to that point, they were chapped.

They wanted the person to go away, like, just go ahead. Let

me fire him. We couldn't fire him, but go ahead and so. But

what's your intention? If you have a true, pure intention to

help that person and help them be a better person so they can

keep their job, it's going to come through. It's going to come

through in how you approach the situation and how you interact

with them. I found most of the problems at work were all tied

to the supervisor or manager, and sometimes that was me too,

right? Because I was a supervisor manager, your

intention paves the way to the outcome. So I am challenging you

to set your intention on what you want that final impact to

be. I. With any and all interactions like, what impact

do you want to have when it's all said and done? What is your

intention and that's going to set the path. It's going to be

like the yellow brick road to the Wizard of Oz. What do you

want it to be? How do you want to show up? Do you want to show

up with integrity? Do you want to show up with purpose? Do you

want to show up with that servant leadership mentality?

I'm not even give the alternatives, because I hope

your answer is yes, yes, I want to show up with integrity. Yes,

I want to show up so that I can make a positive impact on the

people that I am interacting with. It's a big deal, and we

need more of it now. So today's lesson was on intention. What is

your intention, and how do you want to show up and have the big

impact that you want to have on the world. I'm Jennifer Takagi

with destin for success. I would love to connect with you, go to

your success, call.com and book a call with me. I want to hear

how you're doing, what you're doing, and if there's anything I

can say to help you personally, I would be thrilled and honored

to do that. Have a great day. You.