Exploring Spiritual and Paranormal Experiences | DFS 412

Welcome to Destin for Success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi, and I'm so excited to have a new friend,

Christia Malavenda. Did I get it right?

Yes.

Oh my gosh, I love it when I get it right. I'm

not offended when people mispronounce Takagi, but my

mother-in-law that used to be a thing for that woman. We'll fix

it. It's not a problem. But I love this topic: exploring

spiritual and paranormal experiences. Okay, how did you

get into this? Tell me about it. Where are you? How do you show

up in the world? Like all the things. Ready, set, go.

Awesome, because I could talk about this

stuff forever, and I don't think we're gonna have enough time to

talk about all of it, but we'll start. So my whole life, I have

felt deeply connected to something bigger than what we

could see with the naked eye. So I guess it's knowing we all are

intuitive. We all have access to this deeper connection, but some

people just have different types of different types of abilities,

and so it's just been this feeling my whole life that we

are connected, all of us. That differences make us beautiful,

and I've just been getting messages and signs that I would

always call coincidences, but I just wasn't using the right

terminology. Like it's more synchronicities. It's more like

guidance from the universe. It's more like signs from loved ones.

And but I've always been asking, what does it all mean? And this

past year, through some circumstances, I was guided to

write a book. I'm a filmmaker, so I'm a storyteller. I'm

creative. I love being creative. I love telling stories. But I'd

never written a book, and and through these signs and these

messages, I was guided to write the book. And it was one of the

most incredible experiences. And it was basically about my

spiritual experiences through my life and trying to make meaning

of what what all of it what it all means, and through that I

was guided to start my podcast, The Curious Soul, and that is

just a it's just continuing those conversations, and there's

so many conversations to be had. There's so much curiosity.

There's so many dots. It's like I'm a pattern-seeking person. So

for me, it's like trying to figure out what all these

messages have always meant, what these signs have always meant,

and I feel like I'm getting a lot of understanding. But

there's so much more still to learn, and so that makes me

really excited. So right now, I'm like, I'm just somebody who

is asking a lot of questions and having a lot of conversations,

and just opening myself up to what's more. Because I thought

that like my superpowers were like my dreams and getting signs

from the universe. But as I've gone through a lot more

experiences, especially throughout this last year, I've

started to realize, like I actually can tap in in so many

different ways, just like all of us.

I love it, and the interesting thing for me is,

I think culturally for the last couple 100 years, this was not

acknowledged, accepted, embraced in any way, and now we're kind

of in a new age where people are reconnecting to the things that

have always been, and so that idea of intuition. And I'm a big

believer in intuition and helping people tap into it.

Obviously, I need to do more of it because I enjoy it when I am

in that space and hang out with that. I love this idea of I'm

open to more, and so if I wanted to open to more, do you have any

like suggestions or tips that I can like step into a little bit

more,

yeah. I just want to tell two stories, and

then I'm going to get in because that's what my book is about.

It's like all the ways that I've connected, and there's so many

different ways. But just to kind of like paint a picture, because

you mentioned 100 years ago, so we had the opportunity to talk

to somebody who reads auras, Judith Collins, and she they did

some research, and they discovered that she was using a

prehistoric part of her brain. So imagine that we've gone

through all this time, and we just start to disconnect from

that connection, that deeper thing that is connecting to to

you know the universe, and you know, like there's another story

where imagine how like before electricity, when we used to

just lie down in our beds when it got dark out because we

couldn't see anything, and we used to have to lie and sit or

sit with our thoughts, with being who we are, not watching

television, not scrolling on our phone. And so we start to

disconnect, right? Like literally disconnect. And so the

way we could tap in is all these different ways, right? So there

are dreams, there are like the synchronicities that happen in

our life when you run into that person at the grocery store. You

know all the things that had to get you to that point, right?

Like signs. You can ask for signs, whether they're from

loved ones, from the universe. You can meditate. That's

meditation has been, again, like I thought, like dreams and signs

were my superpower. But like meditating, sometimes I get

visualizations that pop up into my my head, and I'm like, "Oh,

okay. And our intuition is, excuse me, is going with that

first thing that comes to us, right? So I have found that

meditation is the greatest gift I've given to myself because

sometimes I go in, and it's just 10 minutes a day. Like sometimes

I go in, and my eyes won't shut. My heart is beating, and I like

I can actually recognize that when I sit with myself. Because

if we don't sit with ourselves, we don't recognize how fast our

heart is beating. We don't recognize like how wild our

thoughts are going. It's not saying get rid of that stuff.

It's just an awareness. There's even like other form, other

modalities like tarot readings, Intuitive sessions with with

people because they're all puzzle pieces, and sometimes we

get certain information from this intuition or from others a

certain form of guidance, but it may not make sense in that

moment. And sometimes it just you need a little bit of time to

realize that, like, oh, that's what it was saying, and

interpret it, and for things to like actually start to fall into

place. But I just think that, like, you know, whether it's

astrology, understanding things, you know, it's it's a knowing,

like that gut feeling. There's just so many different ways, and

it's like, what works for you? Like, what is it that you feel

is the right way for you to connect and have these intuitive

hits, right? Like, whether they're visualizations, dreams,

signs, signals. There's so many ways, right, that we can connect

and also receive guidance from the universe,

and I what I love I like I do Akashic Records

and I'll do reading. Um, I like I I do it for a while and then

you know it kind of falls off a little bit. So like I'm kind of

in a transition. I've got a couple of clients I'm doing it

with now, but I haven't done it in a while. So then I'm very

doubting, and it's like, "Ooh, is that the right message? And

the funnest thing ever is when I get to a reading because I'm

Claire audience, so I just hear the message and it just like

spits out of my mouth. And then it's like, how did that feel or

sit with you, and I'm like, I I don't know this person well

enough to do if it like lands, and they're like, Oh my God,

that's exactly what I needed to hear, and I'm like, thank you,

like yeah, I'm so happy to hear that. But when you read for

yourself or you're trying to look for yourself, sometimes you

start second guessing: Is that really what that was? Was it

not? So over time, you learn to trust more, but it-it is

definitely a practice. Whether I'm practicing on myself or with

clients, it doesn't really matter. It's that whole practice

piece. So very interesting, and I love that you talk about all

the different modalities, because the bottom line is they

all work.

Yes, and

yeah,

they all work, and I, I just, I feel that it's

very icky when people are like, "Mine is the only way, and I'm

like, "Really? Not really. Like, I don't think so. I think there

are more. I think there's other opportunities and options. So I

love that you threw out so many possibilities.

Yes, it's all just part of like reading a

book, and there's all these different puzzle pieces, and

that I describe it as a puzzle because I love puzzles, I love

games, I love patterns, and you're gonna get bits and pieces

of information from each one. To me, it's all connected. You

know, it's like because I'm having all these conversations

with people who are experts in all these different topics and

modalities, and you're getting just like a bit of information

from over here, and then over here it makes sense, and then

you could start healing, or then you could start to understand,

or then you could, you know, make a pivot. Or it's it's just

like there's so much possibility when you open yourself up to all

these, all these things. Yeah, it's it's just pretty

incredible.

Well, I often throw. I was born on a Monday.

My first time in church was the next Sunday. I've always

believed in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. And so, when I

started going down this spiritual path, I've had people

say, "Well, how do you believe in God and believe in this? And

I'm like, "Well, it's all in my opinion from God. And religion

is how I worship in a group, and it feels really good to me to

have similar beliefs. But my spiritual journey-that's my own

personal connection with all of the all, like because there is

so much more. So very interesting. And the paranormal.

When you threw that in there, I was like, "Wait, what? I don't

really know much of anything about paranormal, unless it's

all paranormal.

Yeah, it's it's for me. It's like you you

can ask signs and have certain experiences. Like I've had kind

of like one off experiences where I've seen things, but

really the paranormal aspect is like when it's like the signs

from the universe for me, or you know messages where I ask for

something, or like a medium comes up to me at a party and is

like, you know, somebody's trying to communicate with you.

You know, it's it's stuff like that. But I've met. But it's for

me, it's the the intrigue, the curiosity. It's like hearing

people's stories that are just fascinating. But we all have the

out the ability to ask for a sign, and it may not come when

you expect it. You know, it's like that's the thing you have

to let go. It the whole thing I think right now. My intuitive

coach said that this year's she's going to teach me

surrender. Okay, surrender is the hardest. It's the hardest

concept, like letting go, especially when you're somebody

who's controlling. You know, and you have a timeline. Yeah. So

I'm trying to like learn how to do that, but I think it is the

aspect of everything, right? It's like let listening to your

intuition. So when you hear something or you feel something,

it's surrendering to that, right? And and so like sometimes

if you ask for a message, it's a really fun game to play, you

know, and see like what happens because there's so many. Like to

me, it happens all the time. Like I get responses all the

time, but some people will say that they don't, right? But that

it's unique to everybody. I just say like try it, but sometimes

you hear stories where it's like you don't get it for a year. But

when you do get it, it's exactly when you're supposed to.

And it's like you know, like the moment you

know. So along those lines, I had learned how to read Akashic

records, and for listeners who don't know what that is, those

are messages of your soul. And when I do a reading, it's never

scary. It's never oh my god, I don't know what that is. It's

always confirmation of what was already there, and it's just

pulling it out. So, just to throw that little disclaimer out

there, but I had learned to read Akashic Records. It was so fun.

I got to end the program, and I got a little message that an

email that said, "Congratulations, you're a

certified soul care coach. It didn't say it like that in the

words, but that's how I read them in my head, and I was like,

"Oh my God, how fun! And so I started. I put in a group. You

know, I can read. I'll read five for free. My calendar's open for

five spots. I had more spots than that, but I just said five.

Yeah. The first five people, every one of them ended with,

"Can I give you a testimonial? And I was like, "Holy moly,

yeah! So I was working with somebody on branding and

messaging, and I had been doing only leadership development type

entrepreneurialship like that was my space, and we worked on a

Monday, took off Tuesday, and we're going to work again

Wednesday to like finalize some languaging and you know put

things together. And I woke up that morning, and it was as if

somebody had written it in big bold sharpie on a white paper,

and it said, "Step into this spiritual side of it and drop

the rest.

Yes, and

it was like, "Okay. So we get on the call,

and he's like, "Okay, let's go over what happened two days ago.

And I was like, "Yeah, no, like sorry, dude. We gotta we gotta

retrench that, and that's when I really stepped into it. And so,

like sometimes those messages, but that was months down the

road, right? That wasn't the day I got that email. It was months

down the road, and when you get them, sometimes they're you know

a big black sharpie on a white piece of paper, and sometimes

they're really subtle. Like turn left instead of right, walking

down that street. Yeah, don't turn right. It's going to be a

problem. Don't turn right. So,

by the way, I want you. Can I book a session

with you, my co-host and I, to get our acrylic records read?

Yeah.

Okay, amazing because that's actually

something I haven't done, and that's something I really want

to do. I'm like, I want to explore everything. Like, just

oh, it's just so much fun and like eye opening. And so I think

it would be absolutely wonderful to have my co-host Marty and I

do that with you.

Yeah, it's it's so much fun because, like, I'll

make the comment. You know, I'm not clairvoyant. I typically

don't see pictures. It's usually just words.

Yeah.

And then immediately, I'm like, well,

okay. So I see you walking down a path, and there are all these

trees, and it's kind of shaded, but it's sunny outside. And she

goes, "Oh, that's the park by my house in Canada. And I'm like,

"Awesome! Like. I have no earthly idea. Some people don't

remember what they say in a reading. I remember what I say,

but it it doesn't make sense to me because it's not the message

for me, right? It's a message for somebody else. So super fun,

super fun. Okay, so let's pretend I know nothing, and I

want to start stepping into this. Like, what is something I

can consciously make a decision to do?

To pay attention. To pay attention to

what is happening in your life. Like you might think of them as

coincidences, but just start to like notice what those

coincidences are. I think that's one way. And another way is to

ask for a sign, and it could be from a loved one, or it could be

like I'm gonna see. Like my symbol, my sign is a spider. It

was always there, but then when I consciously chose it, it

started showing up everywhere, and I thought that it was the

sign that sometimes, like when I would see it, I thought it was

like manifesting what I wanted, and then I realized that like it

wasn't that I was manifesting what I wanted. It was showing me

that I was on the right path, even if I wasn't getting what I

wanted. So you can ask for a sign and like be specific. Like,

is it just generally speaking? Like, show me the sign if I'm on

the right path. That that was for me, right? But like, it

might be like, should I make this choice? Or you just have

the opportunity to communicate. It's like it's just a language

with the universe. We all can do it, and you can even set an

intention before you go to bed. I used to think again the

dreams, right? Because I always had these vivid dreams, but I

never, until recently, actually would set an intention before I

would go to bed to say like, I want to have an answer to this

question, or give me some advice for this scenario, right? So for

the first the the night before we recorded our first episode of

our podcast, I asked, give me something that I can work with.

Like, what do I need to know for the podcast? And then that

night, I dreamt about like, oh, you can like edit, and it was a

good because I say a lot of likes, you know. So you can do

it in so many different ways, and I think it's just being open

and just like there's, you know, you could do you could go to a

tarot reader, you can go talk to somebody who is intuitive,

right? That might be able to give you some guidance that you

might not be able to be at that that point yet to be able to

access. There is like you know, Reiki, even past life

regressions. You know, like that has it's interesting because I

haven't mentioned that at all today, but like I have seen a

lot of healing and a lot of power in past life regressions.

Setting an intention going in with like a question and being

able to resolve some kind of lingering whatever emotion that

might have been there for somebody's whole life. Like

there's all these different ways. It's it's it's really what

works for you. And maybe there might be something you may say,

universe or God or whoever, like show me how I can access this

deeper connection, and something will fall in your lap. Like

whatever is going to work for you, because we all like you

know how you're saying you hear like there's even people who

just see colors,

yeah.

You know, there's so many different ways

that we inter interpret this this deeper thing, this deeper

connection.

Oh my gosh, I love it! I also do body code,

emotion code, and belief code. And I was doing emotion code

actually on a business cruise in the middle of the Caribbean, and

this man that I had met before, super nice, super powerful,

super successful, like on all the marks are hit on success for

him, and he had a trapped emotion. And it went back to his

mother during pregnancy, and she had felt this emotion so deeply

during pregnancy that he inherited that emotion. And so

when we cleared it, he looked at me, and it was like, I I just

feel like a different person now, because he couldn't

understand why he felt that way because it wasn't his, right? It

was that you know, past being passed down, if you will. You

need to

talk.

We need to have. We totally need to do our

conversations because this is gonna. Yes, we need to to

continue to to talk. The the the one thing I don't think I

mentioned with the modalities too is meditation. Like I just

wanted to reinforce the meditation aspect because for me

that's been a game changer. Because you you, it's not that

you get rid of the craziness in your mind, like the the thoughts

that are running crazy. It's that you just become aware of

them, and then like sometimes you may have that like brief

like two second like clarity where something could pop in

that you wouldn't have been able to have that space for it until

you're actually sitting there. So meditation is that thing for

me. But I

love that you said you just do 10 minutes

every day.

You know, I mean that is so crucial because

we're like in a time blocked world, blah blah blah. I'm the

12 minute success coach, so I have to say, make it 12, not

10. Yes, um,

but it's that whole idea we we psych ourselves

up that things take a long time and they don't have to, and you

can get huge messages in a short period of time.

Yes, yes,

so easily, so easily. Oh my gosh, Christina,

this has been the funnest conversation. Thank you so

much. I love this stuff so much. Oh,

it's so fun, and like you say, we could go on

for hours. So as we're wrapping up, do you have any final words

for the audience?

I think that the thing is, is that I think we

all have these experiences. Some people will say that nothing's

ever happened to them, but this one thing. So everybody's had at

least like that one thing, and to me, that becomes a form of

like evidence, or you know that pattern of of that. There's

something going on here that maybe most people will kind of

try to suppress or like you know just kind of like throw to the

side. But I will leave here saying like, why not have some

fun, lean into it a little bit, and just see what happens. I

mean, of course, like it's something that is so fun for me

and and and important because it shows that we're all connected

and that we're that love is the most important thing. But like I

think that there's so much opportunity for us to feel like

to heal ourselves, to feel supported, to feel guided, and

to find deeper meaning in our lives. And I think that like

that will make us just feel more happy, more alive, and just feel

more love for not just other people but for ourselves.

Oh my gosh! A

lot of opportunity.

I love this. Thank you, Christina, for being

here. I'm Jennifer Takagi with Destin for Success, and I look

forward to connecting with you soon.

Thank you.