Dale Young Shares The Power of Aligning Your Faith & Business | DFS 420

Welcome to Destin for Success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi, and today we have the pleasure of hearing

from Dale Young, and he's going to talk to us about the power of

aligning your faith and business. Dale, welcome to the

show.

Well, thank you. I'm honored to be here.

So, tell me, how did you come to know about

this? How did you get into this work? What's your background?

Oh gosh, so I

started

out. I started out in the IT world. I was a computer geek

back in 1973. I started getting paid as a computer geek,

programming computers, many computers in those days, and I

kind of grew up through all that, and then in 1992,

something changed, and so I can go into that story if you'd

like. But basically, there was a there was a shift in in my

being, and that started me on a 30-year journey that culminated

in 2022 with the phrase "My calling is to inspire your

calling. And so that's really that's kind of the story. If if

you want to look at the big overview, so we can dive into

whichever part of that interests you,

I mean, all of it is so interesting to me

because there there are people who knew from a very young age

what they wanted to be and do in the world, and they stuck to it.

But most of us just kind of followed the path in front of

us, which sounds a little bit of what what you did-you had a path

and made a pivot, a shift. I often call it a hard left turn,

and so here we are. So, okay, let's talk about how you came to

know and learn about and teach about sharing about aligning

your faith and your business-that's well, it's the

name of your title, but it's very intriguing to me.

All right. Well, basically, through my IT career,

which lasted roughly 50 years, five decades, I was I was just

always growing, always personal development. I was always the

weird IP person that actually liked to talk to the people I

was working with, right? You know, I wasn't the one that

wanted the steak under the door type of thing, right? So, so I

guess I was just always the oddball out at through my whole

career, and that led to the fact that in I don't know 2000 was

part of a startup company that hit number 10 on the fastest

growing companies in the U.S. and had to shut it down three

years later because leadership structure just was wrong and all

that sort of stuff and through this whole journey-it was just

one of those things where, in 1998, I accepted Christ as my

personal Lord and Savior, and that just kind of set me in. It

accelerated my motion along the path that had started back in

1992, and through that, I got into coaching, and coaching got

became an ICF certified coach. A lot of other coaching stuff,

Gallup certified coach, that kind of thing. And through all

of that, it was like, yeah, but I really care about the business

too. I I really want I I want the the coaching and the

business to work together, so I really became more of a business

coach rather than just a life coach, and so and then it was

like, but I got to have the faith in there as well. So, so

right now I'm business, faith, coaching, and technology all

blended together, and I kind of live at that intersection.

Matter of fact, I've actually picked up here recently in the

last couple of years a Go High Level agency, so that I can

provide CRM support for my clients and such like that. And

what it came down to was God was telling me that I I existed in

the intersection, and that I was not only existing in the

intersection, I was aligning everything in the intersection,

and so through that it was like, okay, well, you know, all right,

this is this is good. I'm I'm aligning things. How does that

all work together? And so I started writing about how I had

impacted some of my clients, and for example, Sam is one of my

one of my clients. It's not short for Samantha; it's

actually her initials. But she's always been called Sam her whole

life, and she started through this assessment that I do called

Revealing Strengths in Identity, and she said at the end of that.

She said, "Well, you know, I've always just been trying to do

the best I could do through my whole life, and I realized that

I was doing what everybody told me to do, and not what God meant

me to do. Okay, and so when I stopped swimming upstream,

that's when the magic happened. And she she totally changed her

profession. She quit what she was doing, sold her old

business, started a new business, and has just done

tremendous over the last five years. So six years now.

You know that alignment just matters so much,

and I, in my podcast and in my work with clients, we talk about

alignment, and it's like sometimes things are not working

out well, and it's because of that missing alignment piece.

And so, I can completely relate to to much of what you're what

you're sharing because it's so important to have the both and,

I often say I'm a both and, not an either or kind of girl.

Right. Well, God, God's a both and. So I mean,

Jesus was both God and man. You know, how do you how do you

reconcile that that type of thing? So yeah, yeah, it's

completely true that if you don't get into alignment, it

doesn't work. And one of the big things that I focus on on my

coaching is aligning who you are and why you're here. I think

those are the two biggest questions in the world for any

is who are you and why are you here? And the what I

found through brain science in the last couple of years is that

the who are you is has both a personal and a group identity

associated with it. Who you are in terms of the group, your

family of origin, or your church community, or the people you

work with, or maybe even your pickleball buddies, right? You

know, they're all the community around you. Jim Rohn said you're

the average of the five people you hang around with, right?

Okay, well that community impacts impacts you, and you

impact that community. Okay, so it's a both-way street, right?

And so you have a personal identity and you have a group

identity, which I call community. What's all? What's

the community around you? Okay, and then you throw in the

purpose or the calling or the why on top of that, and having

those three pieces together, I call that the triad of

significant impact. You can have one of those pieces and make an

impact, but it's probably not going to be significant. It's

probably not going to be long term. But if you have all three

of those together in alignment, then you're going to create a

significant impact.

Oh my gosh! So powerful, so incredibly

powerful. So when you when you blended your things and made

this-I mean, you know-living in that intersection, which I love

so much, because like it all comes together beautifully. So

did that create stress or drama in your life and your circle and

those five people that you hang out with the most, or did this

just all seem like a natural transition? And the reason I ask

that question, as entrepreneurs going back to those kids who

knew what they wanted to do when they started as entrepreneurs,

like I started down one path, I was on that path a long time.

Then it was like, yeah, I don't, I, I think I need to shift here

or there. So that's why I ask. I'm just curious about how other

people responded to your shifts and changes.

Well, it's something that I've been on on that 30

year journey, really, you know. And through that 30 year

journey, there were places that I had to say, okay, these are

not, this is not one of my five people that I want to hang with,

you know, and whatever. And actually, that's another piece

that I talk about in the book is I talk about what I call the

relationship bullseye, okay? And I think that you've got an inner

core of about three to five people. You've got a core group,

you know, intercore close friends that's maybe about a

dozen or so, and then you've got a tribe of maybe about 70, and

then you get into you know the bigger circles of you know okay

the followers of 500 or the 1000s or whatever right you can

visualize it kind of like a bullseye right, and these are

all based on the life of Jesus right. He had 70 disciples that

he sent out two by two at one point. Right, he had 12

apostles, but he had three in his inner circle. He had Peter,

James, and John in his inner circle, and so when you look at

that, well, who's in your inner circle, and how do you equate

that, and how do you get people into your inner circle? Maybe

you want them in, but they don't have enough time to be in there.

Okay, and maybe they're somebody that's already in the inner

circle or in the the the close friends, and they don't belong

there anymore. You know, maybe they've gone off the deep end

and whatever. You know, this is why a lot of times the online

romances that end up in marriage after two weeks or something

like that, you know they they just don't fit. You can't just

parachute somebody from the outside into the inner circle

type of thing, right? They have to kind of earn their way in on

the same way. You can't kick them all the way out either. You

have to kick them out layer by layer, so to speak. And so I'd

already been through a lot of that, but I've coached people

through. Okay, this person, you know, that you keep dealing

with, they're taking all your energy. They're an energy

vampire, right? And they're they're just sucking everything

from you. How are you going to get rid of them? How are you

going to set some boundaries and and really establish your own

your own framework for what's best for you, and that's a

that's a big issue for a lot of people. Is how do how do I how

do I stand up for myself?

I I yeah, and to that point, I am a big

follower of Brendon Burchard, and he talks about how you don't

necessarily have to cut people 100% out of your life, but you

might just choose to spend less time with them. And we're in

such a cancel culture these days that it's like, man, if you're

not building me up, I'm just gonna cut you out completely.

And we don't necessarily have to do that. We can just choose to

spend a little less time with those people, and and they might

get pushed all the way out to the very furthest, you know,

ring of the circle, but they might just need to take a step

or two back, right? Like just not quite as close because

they're not building you up the way you you want to be. So I

love that, and I loved your visual that you explained of

that inner circle. It's like, oh, I could just totally and

completely see that. So that was beautiful. I love that.

Well, I I think my brain thinks in terms of images,

and so whenever I'm coming up with something, I'd like to have

an analogy that makes all the pieces fit together, you know.

It's it's in that intersection again. You have to have road

signs in the intersection, right?

Like where people are going to come in and

where people are going to go out. So, as you have obviously

worked with lots of clients over the years, can you share like

one or two really big aha slash transformation moments that the

listers and I can really gravitate towards and go, yeah,

I that sounds like something I want to do.

Well, one of the things I've done a lot of work

with is helping people really understand their Clifton

strengths and the Clifton Strengths it has 34 talent

themes. I'm a Gallup certified coach and a Wheelline certified

coach and all that, but it's got 34 talent themes. And so, for

anybody to have the same top eight in the same order as you,

the chances are one in like seven and a half billion or

something like that, right? You know. So this actually is just

another thing that proves your uniqueness, right? But what we

found through a lot of the study and research and whatever is

that everybody has between eight and 15, eight and 16, what we

call signature talents, and a signature talent is one of those

that you can't turn off. It's just so much you that you can't

turn it off, right? And if you try and turn it off, it doesn't

work. And so I kind of equate that to your skin, right? You

you can't turn your skin off. It's always there. It's always

working. It's always holding you in. You know, always giving you

the vitamin D if you're in sunlight, all that sort of

stuff, right? And then there's another set of talents from

wherever signature cuts off down to the next break that we call

auxiliary, and auxiliary talents are like your clothes. Okay, you

can take them on, you can put them off. You can switch them

out. You know, if you're in winter time, you put on heavier

clothes. If you're on summer, you can put on lighter clothes.

All that sort of stuff. And then at the very bottom is the ones

that are just not you. Okay. For example, harmony is for me. I

don't do harmony well. I can get along with people, but I don't

like you know I don't mind rocking the boat. I don't mind

upsetting the status quo. I'm a rebel at heart in some ways, so

you know that's how it goes. Okay, but my number one is

strategic, and so I can see kind of the pattern and how to how to

get from point A to point B type of thing. Well, I've had several

of my clients. I actually I mentioned Sam earlier. You know,

that's when she really understood that she was working

against her talents. She was trying to get better at those

things that she was never going to be good at, and she started

focusing on her talents that were at the top, and that's when

the magic happened for her. I've got another talent. I've got

another guy, and these these are all stories straight out of the

book. I actually have four people in the book, but I've got

another guy, John, that's in the book, and he was he was a case

where he was building a business, he had one employee,

and he just wasn't sure that business was the right thing to

do. Okay, and the problem was that he was working down there

in those non-pattern talents. Okay, he was doing a lot of

analysis and a lot of putting reports together and all this

sort of stuff turned out that his employee could do that a lot

better and a lot faster than he could, and so we kind of equated

that. You know, well, those those non-pattern talents, those

are kind of like your off-season clothes, but they're stuck in

the storage. They're stuck in a locker in the storage building

five miles away. So every time you want to go do that analysis

for his case, he had to go down the road to the storage building

and unpack that trunk, right? And that just takes a lot of

energy and time, and it just takes that energy out of you at

the end of the day. Whereas if you're working in your top

talent strengths all the time, you're energized at the end of

the day. You may be physically tired, but you're energized, and

so a lot of what I write about in the book is how do you

monitor your energy? How do you pay attention to your energy

during the day? Because those are clues. Those are clues on

how how you get along with people. Another assessment that

I use is the Working Genius, for example.

That's from Patrick Lencioni, and that's a assessment that

tells you what kinds of work you like to do, how you like to

work, and that really plays well with the community aspect

because if you're working with a team of any sort, whether it's a

VA or you know you're just working with your clients or

whatever, you need to understand how they think about doing work.

Okay, that one only has six categories to it, so you get

doubles up quite often. But it's so easy and simple to understand

that it's really a worthwhile assessment. And so I've used

that with all of John's team now. By the way, John has now

tripled his business since I've been working with him. Not not

all due to me. He's he's a go-getter and doing everything.

But you know, I like to say I had a little piece of hand in

there, and but he's tripled his business. He's tripled his

employees, and he's now got some subcontractors working for him

as well, so you know. So he he says, "Well, I just you know, if

I see a case, if I see a case where I'm going down to the

storage building, I say, 'Okay, I don't need to be doing that.

I love that, and it's interesting because

sometimes we, when I was in the federal government and even

corporate work, I I had to do a lot of stuff that had nothing to

do with my gifts or talents, right? Like that was not part of

the equation. You had to do it anyway. And when I first left

the government, one of the first certifications I got was in DISC

behavioral profile, and it came out that I was 96 I, which is

influencing people. So of course you're going to be talking all

the time. You don't care about details, like all of that. My C

for compliance was eight, and the highest I've ever gotten in

that is eight out of 100. And she looked at me and she goes,

"How how did you survive in the housing industry, mortgage

banking, and federal government when like you have no follow the

rules, like you don't have any? And I was like, "Oh, my eye was

so high. I wanted the accolades. I wanted the award, so I would

do what I had to do, but when you talk about was it hard?

Yeah, it was hard. I mean, there some days were harder than

others, so it was super good to step out of that. And in in

StrengthsFinders, I think my number one is Woo, which is

hilarious because it like totally fits where I am now, but

not where I've ever

been,

and. And communication and I think

relationships are all like in my top three, which just work

beautifully with my work today. So super fun how if if you get

into doing something where you can do more of what you love and

what you're naturally gifted at, the better it is. This has been

a great conversation. We're running out of time. Dale has an

awesome gift for you, so that you can do his assessment. How

do your spiritual gifts align with the work with you that you

do? That's coachdale.com forward slash first step. Coachdale.com

forward slash first step. This will be in the show notes with

the actual link with the HTTPS colon forward slash forward

slash in there, so that will be in the show notes and the link

to his book, all the links so you can you can find Dale all

the places. Dale, this has been great getting to know you and

hearing about your journey, and I will let you have final words

for the audience.

Well, I always go back to Stephen Covey and Seven

Habits. Start with end in mind, right? And if you're going to

start with end in mind, then what is your end result for your

life? What are you going to leave behind you? And you can

leave two things behind you. You can leave an inheritance, or you

can leave a legacy. Okay, what's the difference? An inheritance

is something, or you know, some something that you leave to

someone. A legacy is what you leave In someone,

ooh,

okay. So I always want you to ask the question. I

want people to think, what's the legacy that you're leaving at

the end of your life, and would you like it to make it better?

Oh, that's lovely. Thanks for being here

today, Dale. I'm Jennifer Takagi with Destin for Success, and I

look forward to connecting with you soon.